Alison Wood Brooks

It's that you're switching, you're sort of ignoring what someone is saying, and you're switching to something completely new, and that feels so abrupt, so rude, and often sort of hurtful and annoying. Yeah.

Yes, this was back in college. This character we'll call Dave was well known for being very charming. And a girlfriend and I went to this party and Dave was greeting everyone at the door. And we walk into the party and Dave turns to me and he says, Allison, you're so beautiful. So you look so beautiful tonight. So beautiful. Welcome. Come on in. Come on in.

Yes, this was back in college. This character we'll call Dave was well known for being very charming. And a girlfriend and I went to this party and Dave was greeting everyone at the door. And we walk into the party and Dave turns to me and he says, Allison, you're so beautiful. So you look so beautiful tonight. So beautiful. Welcome. Come on in. Come on in.

Yes, this was back in college. This character we'll call Dave was well known for being very charming. And a girlfriend and I went to this party and Dave was greeting everyone at the door. And we walk into the party and Dave turns to me and he says, Allison, you're so beautiful. So you look so beautiful tonight. So beautiful. Welcome. Come on in. Come on in.

And then he turns to my girlfriend and says, oh, Claire, you look so beautiful, so beautiful tonight, unbelievable. And we sort of say, thank you, Dave. Thank you so much. And we walk off into the party. And as more people are arriving at the door, you hear him going through this sort of, flattery shtick over and over. Every person that comes in, oh, you're so beautiful.

And then he turns to my girlfriend and says, oh, Claire, you look so beautiful, so beautiful tonight, unbelievable. And we sort of say, thank you, Dave. Thank you so much. And we walk off into the party. And as more people are arriving at the door, you hear him going through this sort of, flattery shtick over and over. Every person that comes in, oh, you're so beautiful.

And then he turns to my girlfriend and says, oh, Claire, you look so beautiful, so beautiful tonight, unbelievable. And we sort of say, thank you, Dave. Thank you so much. And we walk off into the party. And as more people are arriving at the door, you hear him going through this sort of, flattery shtick over and over. Every person that comes in, oh, you're so beautiful.

It's not even constrained to just the women, right? To the men, oh, you look so handsome. You look so great tonight. Everyone who walks through is getting this, the Dave flattery treatment. And it was a real epiphany moment for me. You know, I had known him a long time. I knew that he was sort of smarmy, had this shtick. And at the same time, I reflected and I realized, you know what, though?

It's not even constrained to just the women, right? To the men, oh, you look so handsome. You look so great tonight. Everyone who walks through is getting this, the Dave flattery treatment. And it was a real epiphany moment for me. You know, I had known him a long time. I knew that he was sort of smarmy, had this shtick. And at the same time, I reflected and I realized, you know what, though?

It's not even constrained to just the women, right? To the men, oh, you look so handsome. You look so great tonight. Everyone who walks through is getting this, the Dave flattery treatment. And it was a real epiphany moment for me. You know, I had known him a long time. I knew that he was sort of smarmy, had this shtick. And at the same time, I reflected and I realized, you know what, though?

It really did make me feel a lot better. It made me feel welcome at this party. It made me feel confident as I went into the party with my friend. And the most amazing thing, later that night, the friend that I had walked to the party with, I saw her kissing Dave later in the night.

It really did make me feel a lot better. It made me feel welcome at this party. It made me feel confident as I went into the party with my friend. And the most amazing thing, later that night, the friend that I had walked to the party with, I saw her kissing Dave later in the night.

It really did make me feel a lot better. It made me feel welcome at this party. It made me feel confident as I went into the party with my friend. And the most amazing thing, later that night, the friend that I had walked to the party with, I saw her kissing Dave later in the night.

And it seemed like his sort of flattery, however insincere it obviously was, had worked its magic on my very smart friend.

And it seemed like his sort of flattery, however insincere it obviously was, had worked its magic on my very smart friend.

And it seemed like his sort of flattery, however insincere it obviously was, had worked its magic on my very smart friend.

Thank you for acknowledging how great I look tonight. That's how I feel. Like, thank you so much for noticing. Yes.

Thank you for acknowledging how great I look tonight. That's how I feel. Like, thank you so much for noticing. Yes.

Thank you for acknowledging how great I look tonight. That's how I feel. Like, thank you so much for noticing. Yes.

It's been so fun. Thank you.