Allie Beth Stuckey

Your main responsibility is to your own family.

And that, that would, that's probably the way I would handle that.

Raising kids who still want to be around you when they're grown up.

Yeah.

You know, you always worry about that when your kids are little.

I know I worried about that as well.

Well, my kids still want to be around me when they're grown up.

Fortunately, they have.

They are.

I mean, we're blessed with that.

And a lot of that is due to the Lisa, my wife, and how her parenting skills and how she was just amazing.

you know, just incredible mom.

And I probably messed up more than I needed to have.

I know I did, but they still want to be around us.

And I think the way to do that is to make sure that, again, I've talked about this before, but to make sure that they see you as not hypocritical.

That doesn't mean you don't make mistakes and you're certainly not perfect, but make sure that you're the same person at home that you are when you leave the home.

That's what they will look at the most.

And make sure, again, just had an email related to this the other day from one of the listeners, is that you understand the difference between values, rules, and preferences.

If you understand that, okay, there are some things that are preferences, there are some things that are rules, like, okay, when you're going to come home from your date, preferences are...

you know or you're wearing blue pants or green pants okay and values are are you honest right and i think if they see that right balance with you they're going to want to have that in the future the other thing is if you'll focus on experiences as opposed to things they're going to want to continue those experiences when you uh when they're adults as well