Allison Holker

You have to be your own biggest supporter, you know, because no one else is going to do all that work for you. You have to do it for yourself.

You have to be your own biggest supporter, you know, because no one else is going to do all that work for you. You have to do it for yourself.

but it was really hard and it was a struggle for me doing when i was growing up and so i find that even as an adult i do sometimes struggle with it and i think we should be more honest about it there are days are so hard to look yourself in the mirror be like i'm amazing you know and i actually recently had a conversation with my friend and she was like i love myself and i was like i was kind of like taken back by that and she was like have you never told yourself you love yourself

but it was really hard and it was a struggle for me doing when i was growing up and so i find that even as an adult i do sometimes struggle with it and i think we should be more honest about it there are days are so hard to look yourself in the mirror be like i'm amazing you know and i actually recently had a conversation with my friend and she was like i love myself and i was like i was kind of like taken back by that and she was like have you never told yourself you love yourself

And she's like, I know you love affirmations, but have you ever told yourself you love yourself? And I was like, no, I had never done that. So that's actually the newest thing that I've added to my affirmations in the morning is I end it with, I love me. I love myself.

And she's like, I know you love affirmations, but have you ever told yourself you love yourself? And I was like, no, I had never done that. So that's actually the newest thing that I've added to my affirmations in the morning is I end it with, I love me. I love myself.

And I know that sounds crazy, but I had not done that until about this last year because I wasn't a bit of a low, you know, with the-

And I know that sounds crazy, but I had not done that until about this last year because I wasn't a bit of a low, you know, with the-

You know, I do still struggle as an adult, especially with the kind of grief I went through the last couple of years with me and my children. Like I... Even though I have been doing affirmations and, you know, been so independent my whole life since childhood and taking care of myself with the kind of grief I went through, it broke me for a second.

You know, I do still struggle as an adult, especially with the kind of grief I went through the last couple of years with me and my children. Like I... Even though I have been doing affirmations and, you know, been so independent my whole life since childhood and taking care of myself with the kind of grief I went through, it broke me for a second.

And I feel like I had to go back down to ground zero and rebuild that strength in me. I had to rebuild that confidence. I had to rebuild confidence. who I am sitting in this chair to this day. And it took a lot of work and it took not just myself work, but it took a lot of commitment from my friends and family around me, really supporting me and lifting me up and therapy, a lot of therapy.

And I feel like I had to go back down to ground zero and rebuild that strength in me. I had to rebuild that confidence. I had to rebuild confidence. who I am sitting in this chair to this day. And it took a lot of work and it took not just myself work, but it took a lot of commitment from my friends and family around me, really supporting me and lifting me up and therapy, a lot of therapy.

But I'm proud of that work. And I never stopped doing those things. Even on my hardest days, I was like, I have to stick to it. And then I, of course, added some other tools into my repertoire that really, really helped that were a little bit more physical. Because I think mentally I had these affirmations I was doing.

But I'm proud of that work. And I never stopped doing those things. Even on my hardest days, I was like, I have to stick to it. And then I, of course, added some other tools into my repertoire that really, really helped that were a little bit more physical. Because I think mentally I had these affirmations I was doing.

And now my friend telling me, which I only started doing that about a year ago, that I love myself. And it felt crazy. The first time I said I love myself felt insane. But I even did it with like the hands because I was like, I'm going to do it. to scream it out loud to myself.

And now my friend telling me, which I only started doing that about a year ago, that I love myself. And it felt crazy. The first time I said I love myself felt insane. But I even did it with like the hands because I was like, I'm going to do it. to scream it out loud to myself.

So I've added these things, not just with the spiritual and the mental aspect, but I've also added cold plunging to my life and sitting in my sauna. And it has just been such a game changer for me. And I think what I often tell people is like, how did you get so much self-confidence? And I was like, it was from self-dedication.

So I've added these things, not just with the spiritual and the mental aspect, but I've also added cold plunging to my life and sitting in my sauna. And it has just been such a game changer for me. And I think what I often tell people is like, how did you get so much self-confidence? And I was like, it was from self-dedication.

I have so many things that are non-negotiables that I do in my life now that I commit to. And that, even those little things you commit to doing daily, they're little wins that build up like I did that for me. I did that for myself. And so I cold plunge in the mornings almost every morning for like five minutes at 55 degrees. It's brutal. But I know if I do the hard things, I can succeed.

I have so many things that are non-negotiables that I do in my life now that I commit to. And that, even those little things you commit to doing daily, they're little wins that build up like I did that for me. I did that for myself. And so I cold plunge in the mornings almost every morning for like five minutes at 55 degrees. It's brutal. But I know if I do the hard things, I can succeed.