Alyssa Nobriga

I first found your work when you were on Oprah. I think you guys were on Oprah for a few times. And I was like, this is going to change the game for people relationally. I didn't have any good models. I really wanted to learn how to do relationships in a new way. And so I could feel the power of the work that you did when I first learned about it.

I first found your work when you were on Oprah. I think you guys were on Oprah for a few times. And I was like, this is going to change the game for people relationally. I didn't have any good models. I really wanted to learn how to do relationships in a new way. And so I could feel the power of the work that you did when I first learned about it.

I first found your work when you were on Oprah. I think you guys were on Oprah for a few times. And I was like, this is going to change the game for people relationally. I didn't have any good models. I really wanted to learn how to do relationships in a new way. And so I could feel the power of the work that you did when I first learned about it.

And I want to recognize you guys because you have made something so... common now mainstream because of your work. So this idea that we attract somebody who's going to near the childhood wounds and all of the things that we have with our partner relate back to the parent that we had harder times with growing up, not getting our needs met that came from you guys.

And I want to recognize you guys because you have made something so... common now mainstream because of your work. So this idea that we attract somebody who's going to near the childhood wounds and all of the things that we have with our partner relate back to the parent that we had harder times with growing up, not getting our needs met that came from you guys.

And I want to recognize you guys because you have made something so... common now mainstream because of your work. So this idea that we attract somebody who's going to near the childhood wounds and all of the things that we have with our partner relate back to the parent that we had harder times with growing up, not getting our needs met that came from you guys.

And that has changed thousands of people's lives. I want to make sure you guys get credit for that because even just that concept, is remarkable. So it's not like I'm with the wrong person or this is bad. It's like, oh, no, these are things that are looking to be healed inside of me.

And that has changed thousands of people's lives. I want to make sure you guys get credit for that because even just that concept, is remarkable. So it's not like I'm with the wrong person or this is bad. It's like, oh, no, these are things that are looking to be healed inside of me.

And that has changed thousands of people's lives. I want to make sure you guys get credit for that because even just that concept, is remarkable. So it's not like I'm with the wrong person or this is bad. It's like, oh, no, these are things that are looking to be healed inside of me.

And so I want to just acknowledge you guys for your body of work, that being one of the things that is now mainstream and has changed the game for so many people internationally. But I would just love to hear from you guys just what like so that I can hear from you. Why do we unconsciously attract a partner that will near the parent or caregiver that we had our unmet needs from most?

And so I want to just acknowledge you guys for your body of work, that being one of the things that is now mainstream and has changed the game for so many people internationally. But I would just love to hear from you guys just what like so that I can hear from you. Why do we unconsciously attract a partner that will near the parent or caregiver that we had our unmet needs from most?

And so I want to just acknowledge you guys for your body of work, that being one of the things that is now mainstream and has changed the game for so many people internationally. But I would just love to hear from you guys just what like so that I can hear from you. Why do we unconsciously attract a partner that will near the parent or caregiver that we had our unmet needs from most?

I want to pause because that is so important what you just shared. So it's like the negativity triggers the brain's survival. It doesn't feel safe in that environment. And so negativity can be the first killer of real connection and intimacy and safety is what I'm hearing.

I want to pause because that is so important what you just shared. So it's like the negativity triggers the brain's survival. It doesn't feel safe in that environment. And so negativity can be the first killer of real connection and intimacy and safety is what I'm hearing.

I want to pause because that is so important what you just shared. So it's like the negativity triggers the brain's survival. It doesn't feel safe in that environment. And so negativity can be the first killer of real connection and intimacy and safety is what I'm hearing.

No, no, it's beautiful. And I really hear it comes back to safety and survival. And the unconscious thinks is familiar. It thinks it's safe, even if it's not. And so part of this, I'm hearing you say, get to know yourself and get to know your partner. And I'm just curious about the one that feels controlled and the one that feels neglected. Do you find that those pairs go together?

No, no, it's beautiful. And I really hear it comes back to safety and survival. And the unconscious thinks is familiar. It thinks it's safe, even if it's not. And so part of this, I'm hearing you say, get to know yourself and get to know your partner. And I'm just curious about the one that feels controlled and the one that feels neglected. Do you find that those pairs go together?

No, no, it's beautiful. And I really hear it comes back to safety and survival. And the unconscious thinks is familiar. It thinks it's safe, even if it's not. And so part of this, I'm hearing you say, get to know yourself and get to know your partner. And I'm just curious about the one that feels controlled and the one that feels neglected. Do you find that those pairs go together?

Like as in partnership, you wouldn't really attract to neglected, right? It would typically, it'll be a partnership of one of the opposite because I'm seeing that with my husband and I.

Like as in partnership, you wouldn't really attract to neglected, right? It would typically, it'll be a partnership of one of the opposite because I'm seeing that with my husband and I.