Amala Ekpunobi

It'd be interesting to hear from the therapist's perspective how we came to this conclusion.

Because I think a lot of these things can sort of stand in isolation and then we grab at them and

piece them together as a massive pattern.

And then it becomes a new story through like the way in which she knows how to tell this story.

She tells the story through these markers of experiences in her life to get you to the conclusion of why she went no contact with her mother.

And I'm just wondering what are all the things that are floating in between these peak moments of anxiety or stress or dysfunction or depression, which yes, we can blame on the mother and her lack of action or the wrong action, but where is everything else?

What is happening all the other times?

And how do we as people create these markers in our life that we then lean back to when we go to tell our stories?

That's something that I've always wondered about because you watch people talk about who they are when you ask somebody, who are you or what are things that have shaped you?

And we all sort of lean back on what we believe to be pivotal moments in our lives that have shaped who we are currently.

And I've always questioned how we get there and how much we can push back on these things and question these moments because they are just moments.

really at the end of the day and this is not to discredit her experience or her what do they call it lived experiences which is like contradictory but doesn't matter how did we get here and does this warrant no contact and you can see she's getting more emotional as she goes through this story and uh we're getting to stronger and stronger moments that she feels like have deeply impacted her and her relationship with her mother and so many people i think

share similar experiences and they end up going no contact.

I do wonder if that works because in a way it feels like you're just cutting off the wound, creating a larger one in cutting it off and then having nowhere to go and all these unresolved things that never truly get confronted and never truly get worked through.

through so we'll leave her in her story for now I feel really bad for her I feel bad for her mother I feel bad about the whole situation but how many of these situations are completely avoidable and how many of us are dealing with this within our own families where it's this back and forth of going through the the past and blaming one another and pointing fingers and then going no contact and then reaching back out again I have to imagine that this is a story for a lot of people and a lot of people are going through this right now and it's

only really happening in recent society.

And this marker of the 2020s does not seem to be working.

We're not less depressed.

We're not less anxious.

We're not less mentally ill by any stretch of the imagination.