Amanda Luxon

And really, it just helps you understand, you know, why does my husband get into the car and just drive without actually knowing where he's going?

You know, or something like that.

Or why does my partner leave everything to the last minute?

Or why are they really good at starting projects but not finishing projects?

And so sometimes I find that if we've got a framework or an education around it,

it kind of breaks down a lot of angst, a lot of conflict, because you sit there and you go, oh, yeah, babe, I know what you're doing.

And here's a map so that when we get halfway to where we're going and you don't know where to go next, we'll have it.

So it's just a lovely way of enhancing communication and relationships.

And the other big thing I think that's important is, say I've got a message I want you to receive.

And I'm sitting here and I want to get you to understand what I want you to understand.

If I give it to you in the way that is meaningful to me and I understand, then it might not be the way that you receive it.

You might not get or understand what I'm trying to say to you.

But if I can go, oh...

He's much more interested in feelings than processes or things like that.

So with my children, if William was a big feeler, Olivia more on the thinking continuum.

And so if I didn't like something William would go, I'd say, William, that makes me incredibly sad that you did blah, blah, blah.

and his little face would go.

If I'd said, William, I don't think that that, you know, is the right moral thing for you to do, he would have looked at me, but it wouldn't have sunken in the same way and the reverse for Olivia.

If I say, you know, I need to say to her, look, on principle, this is not the best way to do that, and she gets it.

So it's tiny little things like that that you can implement