Amy Chapman

But if you're in a place where you need to lay down the law and this is not okay, then you can speak in a different way. And some people are like, well, isn't that fake? It's like, what's fake? It's your voice. It's what you're trying to get across. Why is it fake? We all have different ways.

If I'm getting pulled over by a policeman and I'm talking to my best friend who I'm just like shooting the shit with and I'm just talking like this, I'm not gonna talk to the policeman that way. I'm gonna say, hi officer, I'm so sorry, what was I doing? I'm gonna change the way I speak. We code switch. We do it all the time.

If I'm getting pulled over by a policeman and I'm talking to my best friend who I'm just like shooting the shit with and I'm just talking like this, I'm not gonna talk to the policeman that way. I'm gonna say, hi officer, I'm so sorry, what was I doing? I'm gonna change the way I speak. We code switch. We do it all the time.

If I'm getting pulled over by a policeman and I'm talking to my best friend who I'm just like shooting the shit with and I'm just talking like this, I'm not gonna talk to the policeman that way. I'm gonna say, hi officer, I'm so sorry, what was I doing? I'm gonna change the way I speak. We code switch. We do it all the time.

We do it with our parents, with our in-laws, with our kids, with our teachers, with whoever. I am code switching throughout the day. And I think that's huge. It makes me more successful. It makes the clients I'm working with. They're not like, this girl doesn't know what she's talking about. It's like, oh, no, she does. But then I'm going to go to somebody else and be like, yeah, what's up?

We do it with our parents, with our in-laws, with our kids, with our teachers, with whoever. I am code switching throughout the day. And I think that's huge. It makes me more successful. It makes the clients I'm working with. They're not like, this girl doesn't know what she's talking about. It's like, oh, no, she does. But then I'm going to go to somebody else and be like, yeah, what's up?

We do it with our parents, with our in-laws, with our kids, with our teachers, with whoever. I am code switching throughout the day. And I think that's huge. It makes me more successful. It makes the clients I'm working with. They're not like, this girl doesn't know what she's talking about. It's like, oh, no, she does. But then I'm going to go to somebody else and be like, yeah, what's up?

You know, like we code switch. A hundred percent.

You know, like we code switch. A hundred percent.

You know, like we code switch. A hundred percent.

So this, for that specific BuzzFeed, I'll give that as an example. Kane came to me. And he's kind of quiet and a little bit monotone. And he said, hey, Amy, so I do this. And I'm like, what? Like, you're so monotone. You're just right here. Nothing varies. You're just, you know, hey, how you doing? I was like, okay, we got to take a step back. What are you trying to get from me?

So this, for that specific BuzzFeed, I'll give that as an example. Kane came to me. And he's kind of quiet and a little bit monotone. And he said, hey, Amy, so I do this. And I'm like, what? Like, you're so monotone. You're just right here. Nothing varies. You're just, you know, hey, how you doing? I was like, okay, we got to take a step back. What are you trying to get from me?

So this, for that specific BuzzFeed, I'll give that as an example. Kane came to me. And he's kind of quiet and a little bit monotone. And he said, hey, Amy, so I do this. And I'm like, what? Like, you're so monotone. You're just right here. Nothing varies. You're just, you know, hey, how you doing? I was like, okay, we got to take a step back. What are you trying to get from me?

Do you want me to be excited by you? Get me excited. What does that look like? And I will take it further back of like, how did you speak as a kid? How did you want people to see you? Did you like to be in the front? Did you want to be center of attention or no? Do you want that now or no? You know, it goes back and back and back. But for him, I was like, let's get some intonation in there.

Do you want me to be excited by you? Get me excited. What does that look like? And I will take it further back of like, how did you speak as a kid? How did you want people to see you? Did you like to be in the front? Did you want to be center of attention or no? Do you want that now or no? You know, it goes back and back and back. But for him, I was like, let's get some intonation in there.

Do you want me to be excited by you? Get me excited. What does that look like? And I will take it further back of like, how did you speak as a kid? How did you want people to see you? Did you like to be in the front? Did you want to be center of attention or no? Do you want that now or no? You know, it goes back and back and back. But for him, I was like, let's get some intonation in there.

So move your voice up. Bring it up. Bring your volume up at different times. Punch different things that you want to come and don't. Use your body. So you can see I use my body when I'm talking. I'm not just here, but I keep it bringing out. And that brings people in. So it's not all the, I'm not flailing around, but I want you to use your full body. I want you to use your eye contact.

So move your voice up. Bring it up. Bring your volume up at different times. Punch different things that you want to come and don't. Use your body. So you can see I use my body when I'm talking. I'm not just here, but I keep it bringing out. And that brings people in. So it's not all the, I'm not flailing around, but I want you to use your full body. I want you to use your eye contact.

So move your voice up. Bring it up. Bring your volume up at different times. Punch different things that you want to come and don't. Use your body. So you can see I use my body when I'm talking. I'm not just here, but I keep it bringing out. And that brings people in. So it's not all the, I'm not flailing around, but I want you to use your full body. I want you to use your eye contact.

I want you to use your soul. When you're talking to somebody, there's no one else in the room. And if you're talking to a group of people, I want them to feel like there's no one else in the room. You don't have to lock eyes with them, but you have to feel that like, I am talking to you. I'm giving you my all. And after I talk, I am like zonked because I've given so much energy.