André Duqum

and do the practice of instead of entangling ourselves with how does this need to be better in order for me to find refuge, how can I keep zooming out and remember that the refuge is already here and that wholeness is not something I have to create, it's something that I remember.

I may need to fall apart in order to see that my life can be built on the resonance of space, trust and surrender.

And that often means letting go of the need for stability, surrendering into instability and seeing that there can be still a motivating pulse that creates your life.

When did you feel upset, hurt, angry, abused, misunderstood?

Well, not just misunderstood, but misunderstood in kind of a negative way.

Stress, all of those things.

There was certainly anger.

upset at other people.

And think, how many times did I have negative feelings?

Most people only have to go back about two hours to find a negative feeling.

Most people have negative feelings all the time.

Just the news makes them angry.

Everything kind of makes them angry.

People that disagree with them makes them angry.

But if you grow up, that's not the case.

You can say, well, I haven't had any negative feelings for as long back as I can see.

Well, now you're doing really, really well.

So that's how you can tell about how you're doing.

Just the negative feelings.

Annoyed.