André Duqum

shared was the importance of replacement.

Like it's so much easier to, uh, replace a bad habit with something that is life-giving rather than just get rid of a bad habit, full stop.

Like there's that void then that we try to figure out and fill some other way, which might not be serving, right?

We might give up a vape and then it's to, you know, a porn addiction or to social media or something that's filling that dopaminergic impulse.

Um, and

I had a Daniel Siegel, who's an incredible individual.

I had him on like the first 10 or 20 episodes of this podcast.

He had an incident riding a horse where he like fell off and like hit his head quite severely.

And it really damaged his default mode network more specifically.

Then he had like a spontaneous, like awakening after, after that moment for the months that ensued.

And he,

It was like this lucidity to his experience where he just didn't have like a sense of self like we all do.

And it was really fascinating because he studies this for a living and then he had this experience and this injury where it damaged that part of his brain.

And then he had this completely different sense of joy in life.

What he describes is like a much more bottom-up processing rather than top-down processing in life, meaning you're meeting life as it is, not as you think.

you know, think it ought to be in every given moment.

And like, that's a, that's a place of freedom.

Like when you move from life from that place and you get to meet things with not just your priors, but, but paying attention to what it is.

And in my personal life, that's come through meditation practice, finding more stillness and silence.

I can be less judgmental.