André Duqum

It's an alluring and persistent delusion, you know, to idealize people's lives that we see, whether it's through social media or in different spaces.

And it's one thing to have something that's admirable and have it be inspiring for you to take action in life.

It's another thing to think that people didn't work and have to forego many things that you don't want to get there.

Yeah, it's because nobody shows the sacrifices.

Again, it's like...

there's no Instagram account of like all the sacrifices in somebody's life.

Like nobody wants to share that with anybody.

Nobody wants to see it, but it's, it is, it's inherent.

And, and like anything that's good, it's whether it's, you know, developing a skill or being respected or being loved.

Like it's, it's, I don't want to say you have to earn it.

Cause I think that's like a bad model.

Like you, it's not, you're not earning things, but it is, it's just that like the, the, the sacrifices, like,

component of it.

It's like the part of the iceberg that's underwater.

That's a continual process, right?

And living in one of the most individualistic times and cultures where people are often celebrated and rewarded for kind of being the person who did it all on themselves.

You know, the self-made person is such a bullshit proposition.

There's no self-made anyone.

We are really successful to the degree we're invested in uplifting others and not just making it all about us.

And we can receive so much.