Andy Frisella

okay that's called the ebbs and flows of going out and doing something that's difficult all right uh the truth of the matter is you probably weren't ready for those things and you weren't in position to get them so to see that as a failure is is not really a failure it should be a lesson um as far as dealing with the doubt when things happen that's a simple mental reframe okay um it's like what we say all the time dude it's not that you're a loser it's

that you're losing.

That's not your identity because you fell.

Think about the first time you rode a bike, bro, and you fucking fell over.

Was that a loss or was that a lesson?

As we grow and as we become older, we start to attach more value to the losses than what they should actually be because people are watching and we're embarrassed and things happen and

nobody likes looking stupid and so as we we start to move through life we we we try to protect ourselves from that embarrassment and that failure more and more and more because we're trying to win the approval of people that we shouldn't right we should be trying to win the approval of the the future version of us that is 5 10 20 years down the road

And so like when you have a stumble, I'm not even going to call it a failure.

Like when you have a stumble, you have to realize that that's completely normal.

Everybody goes through it.

Fuck, dude.

You know, every single person that runs, that's worldwide, you know, recognized Donald Trump, Dana White, like all these fucking great people.

entrepreneurs these guys got stories where they were 40 50 60 million dollars in debt or in trump's case billions of dollars in debt and then they pulled out of it and you know became what they are now that you recognize them as and had they said oh i lost and i'm have doubt like

Would they have been who they are today?

No.

So they had the attitude very early and understood the perspective frame properly.

Okay, that didn't work.

Now what will work?

That is the proper perspective.

And it's not about losing.