Anne-Marie Anderson

And he said, look, it's not personal. I said, of course it's personal. I'm a person. I just wanted you to know who you're not hiring. At the end of the meeting, he did hire me. He gave me a raise as a matter of fact, before I even started and I came back. And my kids got to see that. Those are my favorite moments.

And he said, look, it's not personal. I said, of course it's personal. I'm a person. I just wanted you to know who you're not hiring. At the end of the meeting, he did hire me. He gave me a raise as a matter of fact, before I even started and I came back. And my kids got to see that. Those are my favorite moments.

When they get to see their parent, their father is the same way, be resilient, be resourceful. I'm hoping that on my gravestone, my kids will see the words, work the problem. Because that's what I tell them all the time when there's an issue. Okay, do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged? And if they say they want to be helped, I say, great, let's work the problem.

When they get to see their parent, their father is the same way, be resilient, be resourceful. I'm hoping that on my gravestone, my kids will see the words, work the problem. Because that's what I tell them all the time when there's an issue. Okay, do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged? And if they say they want to be helped, I say, great, let's work the problem.

When they get to see their parent, their father is the same way, be resilient, be resourceful. I'm hoping that on my gravestone, my kids will see the words, work the problem. Because that's what I tell them all the time when there's an issue. Okay, do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged? And if they say they want to be helped, I say, great, let's work the problem.

The fourth barrier that I find really common, and everybody has it, is your inner critic. That voice in your head that is telling you, ready, you don't have all the qualifications. Maybe you're not good enough. Other people are more qualified for the thing that you want to do. And in picking my 12-year-old up from school one day, and she gets in the car, hi, honey, how's school?

The fourth barrier that I find really common, and everybody has it, is your inner critic. That voice in your head that is telling you, ready, you don't have all the qualifications. Maybe you're not good enough. Other people are more qualified for the thing that you want to do. And in picking my 12-year-old up from school one day, and she gets in the car, hi, honey, how's school?

The fourth barrier that I find really common, and everybody has it, is your inner critic. That voice in your head that is telling you, ready, you don't have all the qualifications. Maybe you're not good enough. Other people are more qualified for the thing that you want to do. And in picking my 12-year-old up from school one day, and she gets in the car, hi, honey, how's school?

And she says, I'm stupid. I can't do math. And oh, by the way, I'm fat. And I was like, yo, that's a lot in one moment. And when we talked about it, I asked the questions that a lot of people would ask at that point. Would you say that to me? Would you say that to somebody else? No. Why would you say it to yourself? But we went a step further.

And she says, I'm stupid. I can't do math. And oh, by the way, I'm fat. And I was like, yo, that's a lot in one moment. And when we talked about it, I asked the questions that a lot of people would ask at that point. Would you say that to me? Would you say that to somebody else? No. Why would you say it to yourself? But we went a step further.

And she says, I'm stupid. I can't do math. And oh, by the way, I'm fat. And I was like, yo, that's a lot in one moment. And when we talked about it, I asked the questions that a lot of people would ask at that point. Would you say that to me? Would you say that to somebody else? No. Why would you say it to yourself? But we went a step further.

And I said, okay, if that's not something that you would normally say, then that's not your voice. And a lot of psychology experts I realized have advised the same thing where you separate that inner critic from yourself simply by giving it a name, just the simple fact your brain will recognize another name. So I asked my daughter, what would you want to call that voice? And she said, Jerry.

And I said, okay, if that's not something that you would normally say, then that's not your voice. And a lot of psychology experts I realized have advised the same thing where you separate that inner critic from yourself simply by giving it a name, just the simple fact your brain will recognize another name. So I asked my daughter, what would you want to call that voice? And she said, Jerry.

And I said, okay, if that's not something that you would normally say, then that's not your voice. And a lot of psychology experts I realized have advised the same thing where you separate that inner critic from yourself simply by giving it a name, just the simple fact your brain will recognize another name. So I asked my daughter, what would you want to call that voice? And she said, Jerry.

And I said, okay, so if Jerry were to come up and whisper in your ear, You're dumb. You can't do math. And oh, by the way, you're fat. What would you say to Jerry? And she said, I would say, shut up, Jerry. And so if I hear her struggling doing homework saying, oh, I can't do this. I will literally yell for my office. Shut up, Jerry.

And I said, okay, so if Jerry were to come up and whisper in your ear, You're dumb. You can't do math. And oh, by the way, you're fat. What would you say to Jerry? And she said, I would say, shut up, Jerry. And so if I hear her struggling doing homework saying, oh, I can't do this. I will literally yell for my office. Shut up, Jerry.

And I said, okay, so if Jerry were to come up and whisper in your ear, You're dumb. You can't do math. And oh, by the way, you're fat. What would you say to Jerry? And she said, I would say, shut up, Jerry. And so if I hear her struggling doing homework saying, oh, I can't do this. I will literally yell for my office. Shut up, Jerry.

Just to take her out of the moment and recognize it's only one thought. It's just a thought. That's all the power that inner critic has. It's a thought and you can get curious about it and explore it. But the most important thing I think in working with your inner critic is acknowledging it's always going to be there, John. Your inner critic is always going to be alongside you chirping away.

Just to take her out of the moment and recognize it's only one thought. It's just a thought. That's all the power that inner critic has. It's a thought and you can get curious about it and explore it. But the most important thing I think in working with your inner critic is acknowledging it's always going to be there, John. Your inner critic is always going to be alongside you chirping away.

Just to take her out of the moment and recognize it's only one thought. It's just a thought. That's all the power that inner critic has. It's a thought and you can get curious about it and explore it. But the most important thing I think in working with your inner critic is acknowledging it's always going to be there, John. Your inner critic is always going to be alongside you chirping away.