Annie Duke

We don't feel like it's our fault.

So when I stay in that job that stinks or I stay in that relationship that stinks, it doesn't feel as bad to me than if I switch to something new and that stinks.

Because I only worry about...

the bad outcome, the outcome I'm not going to like.

I worry about it so much more on the switch.

So what that does is it gets us to stick to things that are bad for us.

And I remember I had a conversation with someone that I thought was so interesting.

This woman who was like stuck in a job that she really hated.

And by really hated, I mean for years, really hated it.

And I was having a conversation with her.

She actually reached out to me because she had heard me on a podcast talking about quitting.

And she wanted to talk about it with me.

And she said she had a new job offer.

And she just was like, she didn't know whether she should take it or not.

And so I said, well, you tell me about the job that you're in.

And it was like, it's horrible.

I hate it.

It's ruining my relationship with my children.

I have to work 24 seven.

My phone's always going off.