Antonio Pascual-Leone

When I met my future wife, I knew it was right.

And I think that was part of the ending of the relationship in a clarifying way, where you realize you're both the author and the reader of your own story.

Right.

So she was saying things like, I feel like an idiot.

I feel I must have been... I'm such a fool is something that really stuck with me.

Her saying, I'm such a fool.

How could I have been so blind that this was happening and so on and so forth?

And of course, it rattles her, right?

It's not just the loss.

It's of a relationship because the relationship was ending.

But it's also...

you know, rocked her, her, her confidence.

Yeah.

And these sort of doubts about, um, feeling adequate, feeling lovable, feeling attractive enough, feeling, you know, like somebody wants to spend their life with me.

Um, you know, so that's an injury to, to identity in some ways.

So, yeah, I mean, that's that's in some ways a similar example.

Right.

I mean, I was I was quite young and, you know, a teenager.

What?

And it was somebody saying to me, you know, we're sort of breaking up and I wanted to know why.