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And then it gives them a chance to think when you don't come back to them, they're like, wait a minute, they have nothing to keep fighting with you about. So then they're able to take a step back and think and process and then say, oh man, what I just did wasn't right. And then you let them come to you. And that happened to me the other day. I took the high road. I would just suggest...

And then it gives them a chance to think when you don't come back to them, they're like, wait a minute, they have nothing to keep fighting with you about. So then they're able to take a step back and think and process and then say, oh man, what I just did wasn't right. And then you let them come to you. And that happened to me the other day. I took the high road. I would just suggest...

I would suggest you guys always take the high road, even if it's hard. And even if you have that anger inside of you, you just take a step back. You take a deep breath because it's so rewarding when you don't fight back. It's the most rewarding thing. And that's how Jesus was. Just like listening, just sitting there listening, being like, I'm so sorry you feel that way.

I would suggest you guys always take the high road, even if it's hard. And even if you have that anger inside of you, you just take a step back. You take a deep breath because it's so rewarding when you don't fight back. It's the most rewarding thing. And that's how Jesus was. Just like listening, just sitting there listening, being like, I'm so sorry you feel that way.

Like things like this soften the heart of people. And they're like, wow, I feel heard. And even if it's something that you don't agree with, really just like that's what you and I, I feel like we do. We're like, I'm sorry you feel like that. And really listen. Don't try to just defend, defend yourself. Because people have... I have a reason why they feel a certain way.

Like things like this soften the heart of people. And they're like, wow, I feel heard. And even if it's something that you don't agree with, really just like that's what you and I, I feel like we do. We're like, I'm sorry you feel like that. And really listen. Don't try to just defend, defend yourself. Because people have... I have a reason why they feel a certain way.

And sometimes maybe we are doing something that we don't even realize we're doing. There's been times when Angela has come to me and told me things that I didn't even realize I was doing. And typically, I will have pride and be like, no, I don't do that. No, I'm not like that. But I'm like, wait a minute. Let me just hear her out. And what can I do to change it? And how can we work through this?

And sometimes maybe we are doing something that we don't even realize we're doing. There's been times when Angela has come to me and told me things that I didn't even realize I was doing. And typically, I will have pride and be like, no, I don't do that. No, I'm not like that. But I'm like, wait a minute. Let me just hear her out. And what can I do to change it? And how can we work through this?

And that's how you have lasting relationships because, guys, friendships are truly – they are everything. They've kept us – kept me and you standing. They're everything. And a way to have a lasting friendship is you don't give up on each other.

And that's how you have lasting relationships because, guys, friendships are truly – they are everything. They've kept us – kept me and you standing. They're everything. And a way to have a lasting friendship is you don't give up on each other.

When I feel heard, when you aren't like trying to defend and combat and like all this stuff, and even if you feel like you're right, when you sit there and you listen and you're like, okay, like that is what completely softens the whole situation.

When I feel heard, when you aren't like trying to defend and combat and like all this stuff, and even if you feel like you're right, when you sit there and you listen and you're like, okay, like that is what completely softens the whole situation.

And when you're like, I hear you and I'm sorry you feel that way and what can I do to make – like I'm telling you, these things, like saying these little things is going to alter the whole –

And when you're like, I hear you and I'm sorry you feel that way and what can I do to make – like I'm telling you, these things, like saying these little things is going to alter the whole –

conversation in the situation and when people feel heard it diffuses the whole situation but if you just are in constant defense mode and you have a hardened heart and you have constant ego and pride then your heart posture is not in the right place and that's when you really need to sit in a secret place and you need to start reading james

conversation in the situation and when people feel heard it diffuses the whole situation but if you just are in constant defense mode and you have a hardened heart and you have constant ego and pride then your heart posture is not in the right place and that's when you really need to sit in a secret place and you need to start reading james

I remember I read, I remember it was, I had read James and it was right before I had an argument and I was in such peace because that scripture.

I remember I read, I remember it was, I had read James and it was right before I had an argument and I was in such peace because that scripture.

Let's see what James says.

Let's see what James says.