Arthur Aron

We went down to this place, and we both sat there. One came in a little before the other. The other sat down near. I don't know who came in first, but the other one came in and sat near them and had some small discussion. Oh, hi, how are you? I don't remember what name I used. And we talked about what we did, which was not what we actually do, but it was kind of fun.

And we pretended like we were just meeting, and that was a fun activity. We talked for a while and then basically went home as if it was a hotel and had some fun.

And we pretended like we were just meeting, and that was a fun activity. We talked for a while and then basically went home as if it was a hotel and had some fun.

And we pretended like we were just meeting, and that was a fun activity. We talked for a while and then basically went home as if it was a hotel and had some fun.

That's right. I mean, it doesn't hurt, but if you can do more than that, you know, let's go to a restaurant. Let's go to one we've never been to before. You know, let's go to a kind of restaurant we've never been to before. You know, let's do something really different. You know, that's what matters.

That's right. I mean, it doesn't hurt, but if you can do more than that, you know, let's go to a restaurant. Let's go to one we've never been to before. You know, let's go to a kind of restaurant we've never been to before. You know, let's do something really different. You know, that's what matters.

That's right. I mean, it doesn't hurt, but if you can do more than that, you know, let's go to a restaurant. Let's go to one we've never been to before. You know, let's go to a kind of restaurant we've never been to before. You know, let's do something really different. You know, that's what matters.

Yeah, well, we've done experiments in the lab, but one of the early things we did is we gave couples a long list of activities, and they had to rate each on a number of things, including how exciting it would be to do this. This is a standard list of activities people do.

Yeah, well, we've done experiments in the lab, but one of the early things we did is we gave couples a long list of activities, and they had to rate each on a number of things, including how exciting it would be to do this. This is a standard list of activities people do.

Yeah, well, we've done experiments in the lab, but one of the early things we did is we gave couples a long list of activities, and they had to rate each on a number of things, including how exciting it would be to do this. This is a standard list of activities people do.

Then we took a subset of the things that they listed as exciting but not particularly pleasant or not unpleasant, but, you know. And randomly assigned half of them to do something from that list and half to do something from the other items. And every week to spend a half hour to an hour doing one of these things or a little longer. And we had them do this for 10 weeks.

Then we took a subset of the things that they listed as exciting but not particularly pleasant or not unpleasant, but, you know. And randomly assigned half of them to do something from that list and half to do something from the other items. And every week to spend a half hour to an hour doing one of these things or a little longer. And we had them do this for 10 weeks.

Then we took a subset of the things that they listed as exciting but not particularly pleasant or not unpleasant, but, you know. And randomly assigned half of them to do something from that list and half to do something from the other items. And every week to spend a half hour to an hour doing one of these things or a little longer. And we had them do this for 10 weeks.

And we found that those who were in the exciting activity group showed much bigger increase in the quality of their relationships than the other one.

And we found that those who were in the exciting activity group showed much bigger increase in the quality of their relationships than the other one.

And we found that those who were in the exciting activity group showed much bigger increase in the quality of their relationships than the other one.

Yeah, well, it's nice if the activity is both pleasant and novel, but as long as it's, again, as long as it's not more than you can handle.

Yeah, well, it's nice if the activity is both pleasant and novel, but as long as it's, again, as long as it's not more than you can handle.

Yeah, well, it's nice if the activity is both pleasant and novel, but as long as it's, again, as long as it's not more than you can handle.

Yes. Yeah. They came into the lab and we said, we're going to have you do some things. And in one condition, we tied their wrists and ankles together with Velcro strips. And we had them go across, I don't know, it was about 25 feet or something on gym mats. And there was a big round rolled thing in the middle. And they had to go back and forth over it.