Arthur Aron

One is that each would answer the question and then the other would answer and they'd go on. So they could hear each other and have a chance to be responsive. Another element was the questions were designed so that they'd move from not being very intimate or close to being more and more intimate stuff.

you know if you get on a plane and you talk about your you sit down with someone you start talking about the most intense things in your life you can put them off so if you start with you know smaller things and then gradually move to bigger and you go both ways so it's just so the first set is fairly mundane you know if you go out to dinner with anyone in the world throughout history who would you go out to dinner you know and then they get more and more personal

you know if you get on a plane and you talk about your you sit down with someone you start talking about the most intense things in your life you can put them off so if you start with you know smaller things and then gradually move to bigger and you go both ways so it's just so the first set is fairly mundane you know if you go out to dinner with anyone in the world throughout history who would you go out to dinner you know and then they get more and more personal

you know if you get on a plane and you talk about your you sit down with someone you start talking about the most intense things in your life you can put them off so if you start with you know smaller things and then gradually move to bigger and you go both ways so it's just so the first set is fairly mundane you know if you go out to dinner with anyone in the world throughout history who would you go out to dinner you know and then they get more and more personal

One of the things that makes people want to get close is to feel they have things in common. Actually having them isn't as important as feeling they do. In the second set, I think we have an item that say, name some things you've noticed you have in common. We never say name some things you don't have in common.

One of the things that makes people want to get close is to feel they have things in common. Actually having them isn't as important as feeling they do. In the second set, I think we have an item that say, name some things you've noticed you have in common. We never say name some things you don't have in common.

One of the things that makes people want to get close is to feel they have things in common. Actually having them isn't as important as feeling they do. In the second set, I think we have an item that say, name some things you've noticed you have in common. We never say name some things you don't have in common.

Yeah, and even those get a little stronger as you move ahead, but yes, within the first 12.

Yeah, and even those get a little stronger as you move ahead, but yes, within the first 12.

Yeah, and even those get a little stronger as you move ahead, but yes, within the first 12.

Yeah, that's right. That's the idea. We want to create closeness in 45 minutes.

Yeah, that's right. That's the idea. We want to create closeness in 45 minutes.

Yeah, that's right. That's the idea. We want to create closeness in 45 minutes.

Well, they get closer. This closeness procedure in 45 minutes really works. It doesn't necessarily keep them close in the long term, but certainly right afterwards, they often report feeling as close to the person they were doing the activity with as to the closest person in their life. It really creates a sense of intense closeness.

Well, they get closer. This closeness procedure in 45 minutes really works. It doesn't necessarily keep them close in the long term, but certainly right afterwards, they often report feeling as close to the person they were doing the activity with as to the closest person in their life. It really creates a sense of intense closeness.

Well, they get closer. This closeness procedure in 45 minutes really works. It doesn't necessarily keep them close in the long term, but certainly right afterwards, they often report feeling as close to the person they were doing the activity with as to the closest person in their life. It really creates a sense of intense closeness.

Self-disclosure provides an opportunity for deep responsiveness. You know, when you interact with someone and, you know, you say something and you feel they've heard you, they understand you, they care about you, that matters a lot.

Self-disclosure provides an opportunity for deep responsiveness. You know, when you interact with someone and, you know, you say something and you feel they've heard you, they understand you, they care about you, that matters a lot.

Self-disclosure provides an opportunity for deep responsiveness. You know, when you interact with someone and, you know, you say something and you feel they've heard you, they understand you, they care about you, that matters a lot.

That's a huge effect. Feeling someone likes you, it really matters for getting close to them. In fact, it's a major factor that we found in falling in love. You know, we've done a lot of surveys where we ask people who've recently fallen in love what happened. And a major thing is I discover the other person liked me.