Arthur Brooks

That's right.

That's right.

But here's the thing that gets back to the work that you've done over the years. Who is it who can't learn this? And the answer is dark triads. Who doesn't learn this? Why? Because narcissism, it's all about me. Machiavellianism, I'm willing to hurt you. Psychopathy, I feel no remorse. Satanism, I enjoy it. I'm not going to learn.

But here's the thing that gets back to the work that you've done over the years. Who is it who can't learn this? And the answer is dark triads. Who doesn't learn this? Why? Because narcissism, it's all about me. Machiavellianism, I'm willing to hurt you. Psychopathy, I feel no remorse. Satanism, I enjoy it. I'm not going to learn.

But here's the thing that gets back to the work that you've done over the years. Who is it who can't learn this? And the answer is dark triads. Who doesn't learn this? Why? Because narcissism, it's all about me. Machiavellianism, I'm willing to hurt you. Psychopathy, I feel no remorse. Satanism, I enjoy it. I'm not going to learn.

And so the result is that dark triads, they tend to exhibit compulsive, addictive behavior over and over again. It's self-defeating. They don't enjoy their lives because they actually can't make it from pleasure to enjoyment. They're incapable of actually.

And so the result is that dark triads, they tend to exhibit compulsive, addictive behavior over and over again. It's self-defeating. They don't enjoy their lives because they actually can't make it from pleasure to enjoyment. They're incapable of actually.

And so the result is that dark triads, they tend to exhibit compulsive, addictive behavior over and over again. It's self-defeating. They don't enjoy their lives because they actually can't make it from pleasure to enjoyment. They're incapable of actually.

Yeah, we sound just like an addict. Which sounds just like an alcoholic. It sounds just like somebody who's addicted to gambling or pornography. Somebody who's subjugated to something, a repetitive behavior that they can't control.

Yeah, we sound just like an addict. Which sounds just like an alcoholic. It sounds just like somebody who's addicted to gambling or pornography. Somebody who's subjugated to something, a repetitive behavior that they can't control.

Yeah, we sound just like an addict. Which sounds just like an alcoholic. It sounds just like somebody who's addicted to gambling or pornography. Somebody who's subjugated to something, a repetitive behavior that they can't control.

That's what that sounds like. And that's the reason, ultimately. And so how do you break out of it? You know, when we talked, I talk to people a lot because I've done a lot of work in addiction communities. And people say, I got to quit drinking. No. No. you need to substitute something better. Yeah, right, right. That's what it comes down to.

That's what that sounds like. And that's the reason, ultimately. And so how do you break out of it? You know, when we talked, I talk to people a lot because I've done a lot of work in addiction communities. And people say, I got to quit drinking. No. No. you need to substitute something better. Yeah, right, right. That's what it comes down to.

That's what that sounds like. And that's the reason, ultimately. And so how do you break out of it? You know, when we talked, I talk to people a lot because I've done a lot of work in addiction communities. And people say, I got to quit drinking. No. No. you need to substitute something better. Yeah, right, right. That's what it comes down to.

Because only when you substitute something better can you actually make this leap. Something that actually can take you to enjoyment as opposed to getting you stuck on pleasure. Yeah. And that requires relationship, and that requires love, and that requires memory. Why memory? Memory is such that you can actually, enjoyment requires that it be a permanent experience.

Because only when you substitute something better can you actually make this leap. Something that actually can take you to enjoyment as opposed to getting you stuck on pleasure. Yeah. And that requires relationship, and that requires love, and that requires memory. Why memory? Memory is such that you can actually, enjoyment requires that it be a permanent experience.

Because only when you substitute something better can you actually make this leap. Something that actually can take you to enjoyment as opposed to getting you stuck on pleasure. Yeah. And that requires relationship, and that requires love, and that requires memory. Why memory? Memory is such that you can actually, enjoyment requires that it be a permanent experience.

When I was a kid, I grew up in a lower middle class home in Seattle. And we would have Thanksgiving like every other family. And every year, my mother was a good cook. And there would be this big turkey. You know how we do it. Yeah, I think you have Thanksgiving in October. But November, it's such a big deal.

When I was a kid, I grew up in a lower middle class home in Seattle. And we would have Thanksgiving like every other family. And every year, my mother was a good cook. And there would be this big turkey. You know how we do it. Yeah, I think you have Thanksgiving in October. But November, it's such a big deal.

When I was a kid, I grew up in a lower middle class home in Seattle. And we would have Thanksgiving like every other family. And every year, my mother was a good cook. And there would be this big turkey. You know how we do it. Yeah, I think you have Thanksgiving in October. But November, it's such a big deal.