Arthur Brooks

So that's important that you add people and memory to it.

So it's a conscious experience.

It's in the prefrontal cortex, not just in the limbic system.

But it's not apparent for everybody how to do that, especially if you're brought up in this way where I got to do more, I got to do more, I got to do more.

Because what happens is that this idea that you're stopping and smelling the roses feels like a waste of time.

Maybe you have parents who say that.

Are you practicing?

I remember that.

They would yell through the door.

Practice.

I was practicing five hours a day when I was in fifth grade.

And so then the whole idea of stopping and going and having fun feels like you feel kind of guilty about it.

And so you're frankly just bad at it.

And you don't like to do things you're bad at.

You don't learn how to.

And then my wife is really good at enjoyment.

She just really enjoys life.

She's Spanish.

I mean, that's like it's a whole country of people who enjoy life, right?

And in the States, we're a little bit less good at it, and I'm especially bad at it.