Arthur Brooks

And the reason for that is, number one, it's hard to live up to your own expectations.

You know, people who are number one, usually you have parents who are like, like, holla, yeah, you're an A student, you're a star performer, you're always going to get the best grades.

And especially the people who are listening to us who come from really

demanding, sometimes, you know, immigrant families who came from nothing and are really working hard for their own kids.

There's this tendency to put the kid on a pedestal and the kid will have a hard time living up to her or his expectations all throughout life.

Well, what happens is by the time you're 80, if you were identified as a high performer before 20, you're more likely to be disappointed with your life after 80.

And the reason is because there's only one number one.

You're usually not going to be that.

It's very disappointing when you're not.

Second is if you do a ton with your life, when the party's over, you're going to know it.

If you're killing it, you're going to notice when the party inevitably ends.

And that's very, very disappointing.

Yeah, yeah.

This is what I do all day long.

You know, I'm working with people in the back half of their career.

I mean, I'm getting 20 messages a day from people who run these major corporations like, OK, buddy, I read your book.

Now, what do I do?

What do I do?

How do I design this thing?

I've got it.