Arthur Brooks

The key challenge for you is making sure that you remember this.

So when you're in a different part of enormous success at age 50, that you're not neglecting your husband and children.

When you're doing that, that you're basically able to say, yeah, this success is going to come.

I can do that success on nine or 10 hours a day.

I don't have to do that success on 14 and 15 hours a day.

That's just a habit.

All righty.

Suffering helps us understand what our priorities are, what the significance of our life is, how we relate to other people and the people that we can actually count on.

That's really what it comes down to.

And when the suffering is over, when the clouds clear, you're like, got it.

I learned a lot.

And the result is you're that much happier if you did the work and you didn't try to avoid the suffering when you were suffering.

So those are two different issues.

Anger is a negative basic emotion.

It's very normal.

It's part of staying alive.

During the Pleistocene, your ancestors would have gotten eaten by a tiger or clubbed by some other member of some tribe unless you had anger.

Anger is really, really important and very, very normal.

The problem is when it manages you.

With all emotions, including positive emotions, you need to learn to manage your emotions so they don't manage you.