Arthur Brooks

How do you do that?

The answer is when you actually have negative or positive emotions, you need to become conscious of those emotions.

This is a process called metacognition.

I strongly recommend journaling your emotions, which will move the experience of those emotions from the automatic part of your brain

to the executive part of your brain and you will almost overnight become a better manager of your anger.

And as such, you will learn how to manage it and do a lot better in life.

So rumination, what is it?

It's actually an amazing human thing.

You know, your dog can't ruminate because what it is, it's going back to a memory of something happened and you turn it over and turn it over and turn it over in your mind.

You're basically rehearsing different outcomes.

You're saying, if I'd said this, I would have gone down this branch of the tree and it would have been different.

What are you doing?

you're training yourself not to make the same mistake again, which is unbelievable.

You should be thankful for your ability to do that.

The problem is that some people ruminate too much, and in so doing, they can become depressed.

One of the characteristics of major clinical depression is that people who will ruminate on the past too much.

A little bit is fine.

Roll it over in your mind and be able to say, I have learned from that, and I will not make that mistake again, and I'm done.

If you can't

do that, then ordinarily you need to get some help.