Arthur Brooks

But, you know, it's OK because we'll see each other a couple of times a year. And I'm sorry, because you're going to be in close proximity to other people and the neurochemical cascade is going to happen and oxytocin can occur. So, you know, respect the biology. And, you know, I'm explaining this and they're like.

But, you know, it's OK because we'll see each other a couple of times a year. And I'm sorry, because you're going to be in close proximity to other people and the neurochemical cascade is going to happen and oxytocin can occur. So, you know, respect the biology. And, you know, I'm explaining this and they're like.

And so that's one of the reasons that those long distance relationships usually don't work is because we're not built in our ancestral state to be living in continents apart from each other. We're supposed to do eye contact and touch. I mean, it's so important that I can practically save a marriage just by having people understand that they need to get back on the oxytocin express.

And so that's one of the reasons that those long distance relationships usually don't work is because we're not built in our ancestral state to be living in continents apart from each other. We're supposed to do eye contact and touch. I mean, it's so important that I can practically save a marriage just by having people understand that they need to get back on the oxytocin express.

And so that's one of the reasons that those long distance relationships usually don't work is because we're not built in our ancestral state to be living in continents apart from each other. We're supposed to do eye contact and touch. I mean, it's so important that I can practically save a marriage just by having people understand that they need to get back on the oxytocin express.

And the way to do that is two simple rules in every marriage. And this is how marriages fall apart.

And the way to do that is two simple rules in every marriage. And this is how marriages fall apart.

And the way to do that is two simple rules in every marriage. And this is how marriages fall apart.

is they stop touching and they stop looking at each other in the eyes and so the two rules for everybody's married watching us and they want their marriage to be like it was not like in the very beginning because that's insane but they want like what it was in year four like year three or something every time you're together you're touching and every time you're talking you're making direct eye contact those are the two rules

is they stop touching and they stop looking at each other in the eyes and so the two rules for everybody's married watching us and they want their marriage to be like it was not like in the very beginning because that's insane but they want like what it was in year four like year three or something every time you're together you're touching and every time you're talking you're making direct eye contact those are the two rules

is they stop touching and they stop looking at each other in the eyes and so the two rules for everybody's married watching us and they want their marriage to be like it was not like in the very beginning because that's insane but they want like what it was in year four like year three or something every time you're together you're touching and every time you're talking you're making direct eye contact those are the two rules

Now, there's going to be more to it. Also, don't be a jerk and take out the trash and unload the dishwasher and don't sleep with a coworker and yada, yada, yada. But if you follow those two rules, the biology will be on your side instead of being on somebody else's side in this. And that's critically important. But that's what you don't get in long-distance relationships.

Now, there's going to be more to it. Also, don't be a jerk and take out the trash and unload the dishwasher and don't sleep with a coworker and yada, yada, yada. But if you follow those two rules, the biology will be on your side instead of being on somebody else's side in this. And that's critically important. But that's what you don't get in long-distance relationships.

Now, there's going to be more to it. Also, don't be a jerk and take out the trash and unload the dishwasher and don't sleep with a coworker and yada, yada, yada. But if you follow those two rules, the biology will be on your side instead of being on somebody else's side in this. And that's critically important. But that's what you don't get in long-distance relationships.

And so when they're doing that, I'll say, okay, your number one expense is that you're going to be together two times a month. I don't care where you're in the world. You're going to be together two times a month and setting up your work schedule so that you've got all of your vacation time is in long weekends and all of your discretionary income is, is plain fair.

And so when they're doing that, I'll say, okay, your number one expense is that you're going to be together two times a month. I don't care where you're in the world. You're going to be together two times a month and setting up your work schedule so that you've got all of your vacation time is in long weekends and all of your discretionary income is, is plain fair.

And so when they're doing that, I'll say, okay, your number one expense is that you're going to be together two times a month. I don't care where you're in the world. You're going to be together two times a month and setting up your work schedule so that you've got all of your vacation time is in long weekends and all of your discretionary income is, is plain fair.

And if you're not into it, then you're not enough into your relationship. That's the price that you need to pay in order to make this work longer. Absolutely. Absolutely. And still it's dangerous. Still tough. I mean, you should be, I mean, it's like, you need protocols around this. I practice these protocols as well.

And if you're not into it, then you're not enough into your relationship. That's the price that you need to pay in order to make this work longer. Absolutely. Absolutely. And still it's dangerous. Still tough. I mean, you should be, I mean, it's like, you need protocols around this. I practice these protocols as well.

And if you're not into it, then you're not enough into your relationship. That's the price that you need to pay in order to make this work longer. Absolutely. Absolutely. And still it's dangerous. Still tough. I mean, you should be, I mean, it's like, you need protocols around this. I practice these protocols as well.