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Arthur Brooks

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Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because we've talked about a whole bunch of really practical things that people can do. Actually write these things down, you know, look at the show notes, put together a couple of experiments in your own life. And if you like them, share them. Like find some way to actually share them with other people. That's what social media is for.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because we've talked about a whole bunch of really practical things that people can do. Actually write these things down, you know, look at the show notes, put together a couple of experiments in your own life. And if you like them, share them. Like find some way to actually share them with other people. That's what social media is for.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because we've talked about a whole bunch of really practical things that people can do. Actually write these things down, you know, look at the show notes, put together a couple of experiments in your own life. And if you like them, share them. Like find some way to actually share them with other people. That's what social media is for.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

That's why God created YouTube and social media is for sharing ideas.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

That's why God created YouTube and social media is for sharing ideas.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

That's why God created YouTube and social media is for sharing ideas.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because anybody, any good societies, any strong societies based on strong families, obviously, and strong families require this one element, which is mom and dad loving each other. You know, that's what families have in common is that two parents who love each other and they've saved thousands of marriages. Thousands of, it's unbelievable.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because anybody, any good societies, any strong societies based on strong families, obviously, and strong families require this one element, which is mom and dad loving each other. You know, that's what families have in common is that two parents who love each other and they've saved thousands of marriages. Thousands of, it's unbelievable.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because anybody, any good societies, any strong societies based on strong families, obviously, and strong families require this one element, which is mom and dad loving each other. You know, that's what families have in common is that two parents who love each other and they've saved thousands of marriages. Thousands of, it's unbelievable.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

And the number one thing that really jumps out of their research is that they find the marriage killers. So in other words, not what to do right, what to stop doing wrong. That's how you start anything. If you go to the doctor and say, oh man, I think I drink too much. He's not going to put you on something to treat the trouble with your drinking.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

And the number one thing that really jumps out of their research is that they find the marriage killers. So in other words, not what to do right, what to stop doing wrong. That's how you start anything. If you go to the doctor and say, oh man, I think I drink too much. He's not going to put you on something to treat the trouble with your drinking.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

And the number one thing that really jumps out of their research is that they find the marriage killers. So in other words, not what to do right, what to stop doing wrong. That's how you start anything. If you go to the doctor and say, oh man, I think I drink too much. He's not going to put you on something to treat the trouble with your drinking.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

He's going to tell you to stop drinking at the very beginning. So that's what they talk about, things to stop doing. And the number one thing gets to the crux of your question, which is to stop treating each other with contempt. Now, there's a whole concept in the, it's actually in the political science literature, but it's a psychological concept called motive attribution asymmetry.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

He's going to tell you to stop drinking at the very beginning. So that's what they talk about, things to stop doing. And the number one thing gets to the crux of your question, which is to stop treating each other with contempt. Now, there's a whole concept in the, it's actually in the political science literature, but it's a psychological concept called motive attribution asymmetry.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

He's going to tell you to stop drinking at the very beginning. So that's what they talk about, things to stop doing. And the number one thing gets to the crux of your question, which is to stop treating each other with contempt. Now, there's a whole concept in the, it's actually in the political science literature, but it's a psychological concept called motive attribution asymmetry.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

You know about this? Is this why Nazis called Jews vermin? Yes. So, good, nice. Boy, you're good. You really know a lot about this stuff. So, motive attribution asymmetry says, I love, but they hate. And so, therefore, it's related to the idea that you will, with contempt, you'll call, you know, the Hutus call the Tutsis cockroaches and the German Nazis call the Jews rats, for example.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

You know about this? Is this why Nazis called Jews vermin? Yes. So, good, nice. Boy, you're good. You really know a lot about this stuff. So, motive attribution asymmetry says, I love, but they hate. And so, therefore, it's related to the idea that you will, with contempt, you'll call, you know, the Hutus call the Tutsis cockroaches and the German Nazis call the Jews rats, for example.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

You know about this? Is this why Nazis called Jews vermin? Yes. So, good, nice. Boy, you're good. You really know a lot about this stuff. So, motive attribution asymmetry says, I love, but they hate. And so, therefore, it's related to the idea that you will, with contempt, you'll call, you know, the Hutus call the Tutsis cockroaches and the German Nazis call the Jews rats, for example.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

That's because you can other them in that particular way. But it's based on this idea that I love Germany and they hate Germany. They're the other and they don't love us. They hate and I love. Right. In an implacable conflict, not just a genocidal situation, but an implacable conflict like a civil war, both sides believe that they love and the other side hates. That's the Middle East. No, no, no.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

That's because you can other them in that particular way. But it's based on this idea that I love Germany and they hate Germany. They're the other and they don't love us. They hate and I love. Right. In an implacable conflict, not just a genocidal situation, but an implacable conflict like a civil war, both sides believe that they love and the other side hates. That's the Middle East. No, no, no.