Arthur Brooks

That's because you can other them in that particular way. But it's based on this idea that I love Germany and they hate Germany. They're the other and they don't love us. They hate and I love. Right. In an implacable conflict, not just a genocidal situation, but an implacable conflict like a civil war, both sides believe that they love and the other side hates. That's the Middle East. No, no, no.

I love, you know, it's like I love my people and I love this place and they just hate us. And both sides think that and that's based on an error because both sides can't simultaneously love and hate. Right. And so the central idea behind that is if you have an implacable conflict that's leading to schism, that you're going to find that error behind it, mode of attribution asymmetry.

I love, you know, it's like I love my people and I love this place and they just hate us. And both sides think that and that's based on an error because both sides can't simultaneously love and hate. Right. And so the central idea behind that is if you have an implacable conflict that's leading to schism, that you're going to find that error behind it, mode of attribution asymmetry.

I love, you know, it's like I love my people and I love this place and they just hate us. And both sides think that and that's based on an error because both sides can't simultaneously love and hate. Right. And so the central idea behind that is if you have an implacable conflict that's leading to schism, that you're going to find that error behind it, mode of attribution asymmetry.

And I'm not trying to sort out world conflict, but I can sort out a lot of conflict. Yeah. And almost all marital disillusion comes from mode of attribution asymmetry. So you take a couple that's on their way to divorce court and he'll be like, no, I still love her, but she hates me. And she'll be like, no, no. I'm the one who loves. He's the one who acts like he hates.

And I'm not trying to sort out world conflict, but I can sort out a lot of conflict. Yeah. And almost all marital disillusion comes from mode of attribution asymmetry. So you take a couple that's on their way to divorce court and he'll be like, no, I still love her, but she hates me. And she'll be like, no, no. I'm the one who loves. He's the one who acts like he hates.

And I'm not trying to sort out world conflict, but I can sort out a lot of conflict. Yeah. And almost all marital disillusion comes from mode of attribution asymmetry. So you take a couple that's on their way to divorce court and he'll be like, no, I still love her, but she hates me. And she'll be like, no, no. I'm the one who loves. He's the one who acts like he hates.

And the reason is because they're behaving in a contemptuous way that says you're worthless and I do hate you, even though you don't feel that way. John and Julie Gutman, one of their central insights is that we... we communicate so poorly because we're transmitting hatred when we don't feel it. Why? Why would that be adaptive? It's not clear why it's adaptive, but it certainly is a habit.

And the reason is because they're behaving in a contemptuous way that says you're worthless and I do hate you, even though you don't feel that way. John and Julie Gutman, one of their central insights is that we... we communicate so poorly because we're transmitting hatred when we don't feel it. Why? Why would that be adaptive? It's not clear why it's adaptive, but it certainly is a habit.

And the reason is because they're behaving in a contemptuous way that says you're worthless and I do hate you, even though you don't feel that way. John and Julie Gutman, one of their central insights is that we... we communicate so poorly because we're transmitting hatred when we don't feel it. Why? Why would that be adaptive? It's not clear why it's adaptive, but it certainly is a habit.

And so what the habit is basically, so he'll look at a couple that he's met just now, talk to them for an hour and watch them in the laboratory discussing something of great contention. And he'll want to see if they're rolling their eyes. Because eye rolling is a real physical manifestation of contempt. Now, contempt is two negative emotions blended together, anger and disgust.

And so what the habit is basically, so he'll look at a couple that he's met just now, talk to them for an hour and watch them in the laboratory discussing something of great contention. And he'll want to see if they're rolling their eyes. Because eye rolling is a real physical manifestation of contempt. Now, contempt is two negative emotions blended together, anger and disgust.

And so what the habit is basically, so he'll look at a couple that he's met just now, talk to them for an hour and watch them in the laboratory discussing something of great contention. And he'll want to see if they're rolling their eyes. Because eye rolling is a real physical manifestation of contempt. Now, contempt is two negative emotions blended together, anger and disgust.

Anger is a hot emotion that's not correlated with divorce. Thank God with my marriage to a Spaniard. Disgust is a response to a pathogen in the insular cortex of the brain, the insula of the brain. Retreat. And what it says is that's a pathogen that might poison you. That's all we had before antibiotics and vaccines was the insular cortex that gave us a sense of disgust.

Anger is a hot emotion that's not correlated with divorce. Thank God with my marriage to a Spaniard. Disgust is a response to a pathogen in the insular cortex of the brain, the insula of the brain. Retreat. And what it says is that's a pathogen that might poison you. That's all we had before antibiotics and vaccines was the insular cortex that gave us a sense of disgust.

Anger is a hot emotion that's not correlated with divorce. Thank God with my marriage to a Spaniard. Disgust is a response to a pathogen in the insular cortex of the brain, the insula of the brain. Retreat. And what it says is that's a pathogen that might poison you. That's all we had before antibiotics and vaccines was the insular cortex that gave us a sense of disgust.

So that piece of chicken in the back of the fridge that you forgot about, you're like, yeah. Never, never, never, never treat another person like a pathogen. This gets us back to the Nazi thing that you talked about before.

So that piece of chicken in the back of the fridge that you forgot about, you're like, yeah. Never, never, never, never treat another person like a pathogen. This gets us back to the Nazi thing that you talked about before.

So that piece of chicken in the back of the fridge that you forgot about, you're like, yeah. Never, never, never, never treat another person like a pathogen. This gets us back to the Nazi thing that you talked about before.

When you treat somebody like a pathogen, the way that you stimulate the insular cortex in an entire population is by talking about them in terms of disgust to stimulate that part of the brain. As such... making them utterly anathema and worthy of the greatest barbarity. Justifies mistreatment.