Arthur Ciaramicoli

So no one is genetically programmed to worry.

That is not true.

It's never been proven.

It is a learned characteristic.

And again, I'm not saying that it can be unlearned very easily, but anything that's learned, anything in your life that you have learned can be unlearned if you focus on it with diligence and commitment.

Well, they grew up in the same house, but we all know from having siblings, siblings are treated differently.

And we're born with a bit different temperaments, but if you were born when your father had a great job and was very happy in his life, and I was born when he was laid off and couldn't find employment for four years,

or I was the youngest and you were the oldest of five and I go through the divorce of our parents, but you were off in college when they got a divorce, your experience may be very different than mine because parents are different at different ages.

And parents interact with males differently than they interact with females.

So there's a lot of variables in the family that we have to account for that can produce worry and anxiety.

I think when you've been accustomed to it for a long time, and these habits are, they have, you know, we've established neural pathways in our brain where they're just easily, if they're easily continued and it feels like automatic thinking, but you have to kind of step outside yourself.

And in a way, use empathy toward yourself.

It's almost like you're observing yourself.

You have to learn those old records that you repeat over and over again.

For instance, some people wake up at the same time every night, 2.10, 3.10 in the morning, and they'll tell you exactly what they're going to be thinking.

And I say, practice the night before not thinking that, knowing that that's your old record.

We're trying to change old conditioned ways of thinking by almost being prepared for them.

So instead of waking up every morning at 3 o'clock saying the same thing, oh my God, I've got to go to work, it's not going to be good, my boss doesn't like me, on and on and on, you counter that immediately.

And you don't fall into it.

And that again is what happens when you know your old records.