Ashley Trujillo
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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Betrayal Season 6 · Listener Mail - How Do I Help My Friend? | Betrayal Weekly — BONUS · 1 May 2025
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To me, she never said, I feel like she's choosing him. I feel abandoned. I feel left out. They are so very, very close, which was one of the questions that I wanted to come in with today, which is if I do not continue a relationship with her mother. And to be really honest, at this point, I don't know if I can. I don't know yet. But if I don't, how would I explain to her daughter?
Just because you're close with your mom doesn't mean you need to follow what she's doing. Doesn't mean it's okay. And how do I continue to support her and say those things without her daughter pushing me away? Just because we're disagreeing with her mother who she's so loyal to.
That does help a lot because that was a big question I had. You know, what do we say?
Yeah, and that makes perfect sense. And I remember one of the last things I said to Sarah was, when you go into that courtroom, you have to pick a side to sit on. You can sit with your daughter or you can sit with your husband. And I hope that you're able to make the right choice. And I didn't tell her what I thought the right choice was.
But I told her, you can choose whatever you want, but there are consequences to your choices. And this is a consequence because there was no way to continue forward with him in her life still in that way, in my opinion. I didn't do it as a punishment. This is not a it's him or me situation. It was never that. So Jess, was drawing that boundary at that time the right thing to do?
I was so looking forward to talking to both of you today, but I love hearing that from a therapist point of view, from a licensed therapist point of view, because I never thought about that. You know, like I said, I went with my husband literally saying the same things over and over, begging him, pretend I'm not an adult and tell me exactly step by step, what do I do?
That's all I want right now is for somebody to tell me exactly what to do. Pretend I'm a child, give me the next steps because I don't know anymore. But I kind of landed on it with, I guess now it is about me at this point. And whether is that moral issue that I have a problem with, even though I understand that it is a moral issue that I have within myself. Do I now continue the friendship?
When I feel like the foundation of who we are as people, to me, her foundation has shifted. And who I thought she was is not who she was. And when the dust settles, it is who she has changed for me. And the answer is yes. So what do I do with that now?
I appreciate that. And, you know, it's interesting to me that you don't remember if anybody has said anything in the moment. And I wonder if Sarah will get there, you know, in a couple of years, if she'll forget everything that was said. And I'm okay. It's fine if she does. But I just hope that she felt loved and supported through it all the way that you did.
You know, I think that you telling your story just in this podcast period is incredibly brave and amazing and so helpful to people, obviously to complete strangers, you know, somewhere that you don't even know in the world because it's a ripple effect. you know, apart from the core people who this immediately affects. It affects everybody around you as well. It affects you.
It affects your daily life. And her sister and brother-in-law and I and my husband, kind of formed our support group so that we could say the things we wanted to say without hurting Sarah, which I would highly recommend to any friend or family member in this situation. Get your own support group with other people who are trying to navigate exactly like you.
And I love that we were able to do this today because if I had questions, other people have questions.
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