Ayelet Fishbach

I might not have it in me.

Maybe I will never be able to be the person that I wanted to be.

It's up to you.

The framing is something that you can choose.

Yes, there is some little show on what we call self-handicapping.

And self-handicapping is an interesting phenomenon.

It's like the student that purposely did not sleep the night before the exam so that if she doesn't do well, she can blame the circumstances.

She can say, well, I was too tired to do well.

And we see that sometimes people do that because they are afraid to try, because they are afraid about what failure might mean for who they are.

I think that as a society, we should probably just have healthier relationships with setbacks.

There is a lot of work in motivational science about how to learn from failure, how to learn from setback.

Probably the basic thing is to understand that there are lessons in there.

That was not a wasted experience.

That made me the person that I am.

That enriched me somehow.

Think about it.

If you try to cook something and you burn the dish, well, you don't have dinner, but you learn something about cooking.

Think about what you've learned.

Yeah, well, the larger the team, the larger the problem with motivation is.

Basically, this is what we call social loafing.