B.A. Parker
👤 PersonAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I had to make sure that, like, my ring camera was on so I didn't want to look. I was like, how do I not look shady? Like, how do I look like a normal person? Like, I had all of these in my head.
I didn't want to look. It was like drug-seeking behavior. There's something so weird about telehealth and talking to someone to be like, hey, I have this problem and I can only get help through you. What can we do about that?
I didn't want to look. It was like drug-seeking behavior. There's something so weird about telehealth and talking to someone to be like, hey, I have this problem and I can only get help through you. What can we do about that?
I was like, I have ADHD, and I'm just trying to figure out ways to handle this effectively. And he was like, are you sure you don't have bipolar disorder? And I was like, oh, I'm sure. I'm like, I am very sure that I do not have bipolar disorder. Like, I'm not manic. I don't have, like, epic highs and epic lows.
I was like, I have ADHD, and I'm just trying to figure out ways to handle this effectively. And he was like, are you sure you don't have bipolar disorder? And I was like, oh, I'm sure. I'm like, I am very sure that I do not have bipolar disorder. Like, I'm not manic. I don't have, like, epic highs and epic lows.
I don't know what happened, but it's like the algorithm heard the conversation and figured out, like, you're a Black woman with ADHD. So I started getting more of those TikToks. So, like, a lot of those women were being told they had bipolar disorder. And they were like, no, no, no, this is just ADHD. This is just ADHD.
I don't know what happened, but it's like the algorithm heard the conversation and figured out, like, you're a Black woman with ADHD. So I started getting more of those TikToks. So, like, a lot of those women were being told they had bipolar disorder. And they were like, no, no, no, this is just ADHD. This is just ADHD.
It's one of the things where it's like, you have to, like, they're like, oh, well, Black women have to be hypervigilant because, like, we can't,
It's one of the things where it's like, you have to, like, they're like, oh, well, Black women have to be hypervigilant because, like, we can't,
because you have the perceptions that the world have about us to get defensive, to not be good at your job, to not be on point is immediately a defect and already a ding against your character amongst what other dings happen just because of like the dual sides of oppression as being black and a woman. So to have ADHD on top of that and like, oh, well, why, why, Why did you not meet this deadline?
because you have the perceptions that the world have about us to get defensive, to not be good at your job, to not be on point is immediately a defect and already a ding against your character amongst what other dings happen just because of like the dual sides of oppression as being black and a woman. So to have ADHD on top of that and like, oh, well, why, why, Why did you not meet this deadline?
Why can't you answer these questions right now? All of these things you kind of have to overcompensate. I know that growing up, aside from having ADHD, I also had a social anxiety disorder. I was really shy and scared to talk to people. And being thrust into New York City at, like, 21, having to, like, just function and put yourself out there is a really scary thing.
Why can't you answer these questions right now? All of these things you kind of have to overcompensate. I know that growing up, aside from having ADHD, I also had a social anxiety disorder. I was really shy and scared to talk to people. And being thrust into New York City at, like, 21, having to, like, just function and put yourself out there is a really scary thing.
And having all these things while being Black is, like, an added layer of neuroses. But like having women that I started getting on my For You page to be like, yeah, I also... Parker interrupted herself as she was saying this.
And having all these things while being Black is, like, an added layer of neuroses. But like having women that I started getting on my For You page to be like, yeah, I also... Parker interrupted herself as she was saying this.
I forgot what the statistic was, but like the number of Black women in their 30s during the pandemic, they were... They had ADHD and learning that, like, they've had it their whole lives. And because you were functioning and because no one is looking into Black girls because they're doing, like, there's a lack of interest. And, you know, as long as they're keeping the status quo, they'll be fine.
I forgot what the statistic was, but like the number of Black women in their 30s during the pandemic, they were... They had ADHD and learning that, like, they've had it their whole lives. And because you were functioning and because no one is looking into Black girls because they're doing, like, there's a lack of interest. And, you know, as long as they're keeping the status quo, they'll be fine.
Shout out to TikTok being my advocate. Who would have thought? Because the I think I'm on the side of TikTok that's like, I mean, doctors are helpful, but also like be able to ask for a second opinion because they have their own their own biases. And like, so I have to be mindful of that.
Shout out to TikTok being my advocate. Who would have thought? Because the I think I'm on the side of TikTok that's like, I mean, doctors are helpful, but also like be able to ask for a second opinion because they have their own their own biases. And like, so I have to be mindful of that.
I didn't have that before. Now that I have, like, the language for it, it's been really helpful. Especially in meetings, because, like, my mind will wander. There's... Wait, okay, I'll show you this, because this is... She pulled out her phone and seemed to be scrolling through her photos. I mean, I swear I am paying attention during work. But I used to do this during work.