Baron Ryan

Yeah.

How should we...

Like, what should our metric of relationships be then?

Who should we be comparing ourselves to?

Yeah.

I think I always... I was always scared of this part in relationships because...

The big danger is you get in a relationship with the fantasized version you have in your head of someone else.

You've projected that onto this person, and they're going to inevitably fall from that imagined reality that you just gave them.

And so, of course, you need a little bit of reality in there.

Maybe a little bit of comparison might do you well.

But for the most part, maybe it's just about checking in whether or not you are happy and

And as is, you know, there's a short story by Lucas Shepard, I think, called The Jaguar Hunter.

Okay.

And the story begins, it opens with this tribe in South America and everyone's happy, everyone's calm and life is good.

And then someone brings a TV into the tribe and they hook up the electricity and suddenly the tribe just goes to pieces because they see what the outside world is like.

They see what it's like to have hot and cold water.

They see what it's like to go to the grocery store and just pick out any fruit you want, no matter what the season is.

And suddenly they feel like they can't be happy because they're living in heaven, not us.

And I think with the relationship things,

I think that's, for the most part, that is what the whole we all go down.