Becky G

And they were like, no.

Like, you were so normal.

Like, you're so fine.

But I was going through so much panicking that I like completely shut off.

And like, you know, I think that that that is like a really good example of like, just how far on the spectrum you can go of like,

codependency, people pleasing.

Like you don't give yourself any space and grace to just be a young 20 something year old figuring it out.

how did that dynamic influence just like decisions you made growing up as a child you know it's really interesting looking back at it now i think i had a lot of anger um anger wasn't an easy emotion for me to process obviously they say anger is sadness uh what is it sadness is a bodyguard

And so my anger I would put towards my career.

I just thought that the more successful I became, the more I made, the less this would be an issue.

And if I became a better husband to my mother and I became a better father to my siblings, then, you know, maybe he'll figure it out.

can't do the work for someone else you know and i i wish yes of course you can't go back in time but i wish younger me had someone to to lean on and also hear that from because it is this like unspoken permission that you give yourself to say you know what not my problem

It takes a lot.

And when it feels like the whole entire family system depends on you for that.

And by the way, every person who plays a part in that system feels the same way, right?

So it's like, like I said, it's this like unspoken thing, but yeah, it's definitely something that I wore for a really long time.

And there was a lot of avoidance with that, with my dad.

And I just tried to out dad my dad.

That's how I became a big daddy, right?

Were you scared of them?