Ben Crowe

In recent times, yeah, the world's have gone so external and extrinsic, money, fame, status, and recognition, rather than internal and intrinsic to get to know who we are, the human being that is, not the human doing.

So we learn, unfortunately, that we believe if we do something and achieve something, we will be someone.

We'll be right back after a quick word from our partners.

When you and I were growing up, Damien, expectations used to mean things you can control 100%, right?

Like I can want the sun to come up tomorrow, but I can't.

control it.

I can't guarantee it.

There's no expectations that the sun will come up.

But today, either because of greed or focusing on what other people think, expectations today loosely has been defined as something we can't control, and yet we still want to control it, which is also the definition of pressure.

So today's definition of expectation is also today's definition of pressure, which is why you'll always hear those two words,

use together when you're watching sport on the weekend, they'll always talk about there's so much pressure, there's so much expectations, because we've kind of bundled the two words together, like these two nasty cousins that follow each other around.

And once you realize that, you can't uncouple it, you can't unsee it.

So whenever I hear the word

pressure, almost always the person has an unhealthy or unrealistic relationship with what is expected of them or what isn't expected of them.

So the quickest way to remove pressure from your life, like right this very second, is to reframe what is expected of you and I and what isn't expected of us.

And thinking we have to live up to someone else's expectations

is not our life task.

Like that's not our responsibility in life.

Like we can't control what other people think about us.

So believing we have to, or expectations of outcome that creates outcome pressure.