Ben Newman

If you live to your feelings, you're going to show up a certain way.

If we live to our standards, we go and figure out how great we can be.

So confidence comes from discipline, not from talent.

So a lot of people – I heard Erwin McManus shared this at a Mastermind event that I was a part of with him in L.A.

a couple of years ago.

And he looked – he was telling a story of the Boston Celtics, and he was talking about the ups and downs and what he was watching and observing how they showed up.

And he said –

Some of these basketball teams, he's a big hoops fan, he said, some of these basketball teams, they're operating off of talent.

They allow their confidence to come from their talent.

He said they have it wrong.

Confidence must come from discipline.

And he said when your confidence comes from discipline, you start to tap into how great you can be.

So can confidence be taught?

I think you can develop confidence by your standards and your disciplines and how hard you're willing to work.

Which, you know, at some point in time, sure, you and I could have a conversation with a young athlete or a business professional who's lacking discipline, ask them some great questions to engage them.

That's a form of teaching.

But I think at some point in time, somebody has to say they want it bad enough to choose the discipline to build the confidence that's going to make them successful.

And then...

If you want to be a goat, right, the Kobe Bryants, the Michael Jordans, what did they do?

They were blessed with talent, and they had plenty of confidence from their talent, but their real confidence came from their discipline.