Benjamin Hardy

And I can use that not only to propel me forward, but I can also use that to say, what do I want to do that's even gonna be bigger and more exciting.

So you can just measure yourself backwards and use that as the baseline for what you can do.

You broke it down beautifully.

I think that this is one of the main problems with the narratives.

There's a lot of narratives about how you shouldn't have goals.

Obviously, I think it's impossible to not have goals.

I think human beings can't not have a goal.

That's part of being intentional.

But the problem is the measurement.

I mean, even if I had hit my goal, I would have gone into the gap.

I would have moved the target.

So even if I had hit the New York Times bestseller list from a gap perspective, I still would have felt terrible about myself because I would have moved the target.

The target would have been, well, why wasn't I on it for four weeks?

Or why didn't I hit number one?

So whether you hit the goal or not doesn't even matter.

If you're in the gap, it will never have been enough because the target will keep changing and you're measuring yourself against something that's

immeasurable and something that's external and always changing.

And so, yeah, whether it's other people that you're measuring yourself against or whether it's just your inflated ideals, that's the point is, is that you won't be happy hitting or not hitting your goals if you stay in the gap.

And that's just that's just the key.

So I look at gain thinking two ways.