Bill Eddy

Right. And we can get manipulated that way. That's what's tricky. But you raised several important points. I want to respond to them all if I can remember them. The first is that this is in many ways quite nuanced. The key thing to look out for with high conflict people a preoccupation with blaming others and not taking responsibility.

Right. And we can get manipulated that way. That's what's tricky. But you raised several important points. I want to respond to them all if I can remember them. The first is that this is in many ways quite nuanced. The key thing to look out for with high conflict people a preoccupation with blaming others and not taking responsibility.

Right. And we can get manipulated that way. That's what's tricky. But you raised several important points. I want to respond to them all if I can remember them. The first is that this is in many ways quite nuanced. The key thing to look out for with high conflict people a preoccupation with blaming others and not taking responsibility.

So you might have a big personality that's not a high conflict person. You might have a me, quiet person who is a high conflict person. So You can't go by what your eyes see and your ears hear. It's really a question of evidence. And that's why I think maybe I got into this after I became a lawyer, that there's no way to quickly know, although you may quickly suspect,

So you might have a big personality that's not a high conflict person. You might have a me, quiet person who is a high conflict person. So You can't go by what your eyes see and your ears hear. It's really a question of evidence. And that's why I think maybe I got into this after I became a lawyer, that there's no way to quickly know, although you may quickly suspect,

So you might have a big personality that's not a high conflict person. You might have a me, quiet person who is a high conflict person. So You can't go by what your eyes see and your ears hear. It's really a question of evidence. And that's why I think maybe I got into this after I became a lawyer, that there's no way to quickly know, although you may quickly suspect,

And then want to look deeper. But I want to give an example because now that I seem to have criticized department heads and – Well, I cited at least one that is really wonderful.

And then want to look deeper. But I want to give an example because now that I seem to have criticized department heads and – Well, I cited at least one that is really wonderful.

And then want to look deeper. But I want to give an example because now that I seem to have criticized department heads and – Well, I cited at least one that is really wonderful.

Right, right. And so the thing I want to emphasize that my favorite example is Steve Jobs. Steve Jobs, I would say, hands down was a high conflict person. Famous for it. There was a guy in Silicon Valley wrote a book, The No A-Hole Rule. And he talked about Steve Jobs in there because he knew Steve Jobs. He was in Silicon Valley.

Right, right. And so the thing I want to emphasize that my favorite example is Steve Jobs. Steve Jobs, I would say, hands down was a high conflict person. Famous for it. There was a guy in Silicon Valley wrote a book, The No A-Hole Rule. And he talked about Steve Jobs in there because he knew Steve Jobs. He was in Silicon Valley.

Right, right. And so the thing I want to emphasize that my favorite example is Steve Jobs. Steve Jobs, I would say, hands down was a high conflict person. Famous for it. There was a guy in Silicon Valley wrote a book, The No A-Hole Rule. And he talked about Steve Jobs in there because he knew Steve Jobs. He was in Silicon Valley.

So I remember reading his biography, like a thousand pages or whatever, and what stood out to me was that he blamed people, Sometimes all or nothing thinking. They talked about his distortion... Reality distortion field. Reality distortion field. And that's exactly what high conflict people do. All or nothing thinking. You've got to do this. You can do this. People say, that's not possible.

So I remember reading his biography, like a thousand pages or whatever, and what stood out to me was that he blamed people, Sometimes all or nothing thinking. They talked about his distortion... Reality distortion field. Reality distortion field. And that's exactly what high conflict people do. All or nothing thinking. You've got to do this. You can do this. People say, that's not possible.

So I remember reading his biography, like a thousand pages or whatever, and what stood out to me was that he blamed people, Sometimes all or nothing thinking. They talked about his distortion... Reality distortion field. Reality distortion field. And that's exactly what high conflict people do. All or nothing thinking. You've got to do this. You can do this. People say, that's not possible.

It's physically impossible, Steve. You can't do this. And then he would push them. And one example that stood out to me was touch screen, glass that you touch and it knows where you are. I think, and I may have it wrong, but from reading his autobiography, that he harangued Corningware Glass Company, Corning Company, something like that, to create that. And they said, you can't do it.

It's physically impossible, Steve. You can't do this. And then he would push them. And one example that stood out to me was touch screen, glass that you touch and it knows where you are. I think, and I may have it wrong, but from reading his autobiography, that he harangued Corningware Glass Company, Corning Company, something like that, to create that. And they said, you can't do it.

It's physically impossible, Steve. You can't do this. And then he would push them. And one example that stood out to me was touch screen, glass that you touch and it knows where you are. I think, and I may have it wrong, but from reading his autobiography, that he harangued Corningware Glass Company, Corning Company, something like that, to create that. And they said, you can't do it.

It's not physically possible. He says, do it and do it in the next 90 days. And they did. They invented this thing that they probably would not have done unless he pushed them. So high conflict person, but I don't think he had a personality disorder. People say, oh, he's an incredible narcissist. But personality disorder is characterized by lack of change.

It's not physically possible. He says, do it and do it in the next 90 days. And they did. They invented this thing that they probably would not have done unless he pushed them. So high conflict person, but I don't think he had a personality disorder. People say, oh, he's an incredible narcissist. But personality disorder is characterized by lack of change.