Brad Stulberg

So it's true both in an individual context when we need to learn to just let go, to peak, but it's also true when you're in an organizational context

So it's true both in an individual context when we need to learn to just let go, to peak, but it's also true when you're in an organizational context

where you get better and better and better using this one quality, and then eventually you have to let things happen on their own.

where you get better and better and better using this one quality, and then eventually you have to let things happen on their own.

The metaphor that I use in the book that I find really powerful is from the mid-century psychoanalyst, D.W.

The metaphor that I use in the book that I find really powerful is from the mid-century psychoanalyst, D.W.

Winnicott, who talked a lot about the good enough parent.

Winnicott, who talked a lot about the good enough parent.

And what Winnicott said is that the helicopter parent that is constantly intruding on their kids and doing things for their kids, the kid does not end up well.

And what Winnicott said is that the helicopter parent that is constantly intruding on their kids and doing things for their kids, the kid does not end up well.

The negligent parent, the parent that checks out, that kid does not end up well.

The negligent parent, the parent that checks out, that kid does not end up well.

The best way to parent is to create a space for your kid to unfold.

The best way to parent is to create a space for your kid to unfold.

And when your kid goes off the path to gently nudge them back on.

And when your kid goes off the path to gently nudge them back on.

And while I absolutely love that as a style of parenting, I also think it's a wonderful way to think about how we relate to ourselves and the big projects in our lives.

And while I absolutely love that as a style of parenting, I also think it's a wonderful way to think about how we relate to ourselves and the big projects in our lives.

So how can we be good enough to ourselves?

So how can we be good enough to ourselves?