Brad Stulberg

That's what's so hard about it.

That's what's so hard about it.

And it's really hard to let go of those traits that help us.

And it's really hard to let go of those traits that help us.

And I think that's just like a metaphor for life more broadly is that the more and more I do this kind of work and I write and think about these topics, the more that I think wisdom is like non-dual thinking, which means being able to say that this thing has worked really well and now it doesn't work anymore.

And I think that's just like a metaphor for life more broadly is that the more and more I do this kind of work and I write and think about these topics, the more that I think wisdom is like non-dual thinking, which means being able to say that this thing has worked really well and now it doesn't work anymore.

or if this thing works really well in this context and not in this context.

or if this thing works really well in this context and not in this context.

Because I think like real wisdom is using things until they work and then being able to let go when they stop working.

Because I think like real wisdom is using things until they work and then being able to let go when they stop working.

And that is so hard.

And that is so hard.

So as I mentioned earlier, what ended up happening is I just felt all this cognitive dissonance between what the sociologist Irvin Goffman would say, my front stage self or the self that the world sees me as and my backstage self, which is who I actually am.

So as I mentioned earlier, what ended up happening is I just felt all this cognitive dissonance between what the sociologist Irvin Goffman would say, my front stage self or the self that the world sees me as and my backstage self, which is who I actually am.

And having that wide chasm just made me feel like shit.

And having that wide chasm just made me feel like shit.

So the first and number one reason I wrote that article was to close that gap.

So the first and number one reason I wrote that article was to close that gap.

And then I think that once that happened, I realized that, A, as I mentioned earlier, so many other people are going through things.

And then I think that once that happened, I realized that, A, as I mentioned earlier, so many other people are going through things.