Brett Cooper

And so me ripping into them for that would be futile, in my opinion.

For a woman that is struggling with postpartum anxiety and depression, who feels alone, maybe unsupported by their spouse and their families, you don't really just want to hear, it's really empowering and you don't get it.

Like maybe actually we should be trying to solve the problem.

And one of the problems is who they married.

And I hate to say it, but I do think we can kind of prevent these problems before they even arise because the common thread for these three women in the story is not really that motherhood is just all inherently terrible, but it's that none of them, not one of them actually wanted to have children in the first place, but they were encouraged to do so by their husbands and by their families.

Okay, listen to these other excerpts from the article.

So mom one, when my husband and I were dating, his deal breaker was having kids.

I didn't feel the same way, but I didn't see a life without children as an option.

That was his deal breaker, not hers.

Next mom, I married young at 22.

My husband couldn't wait to have a baby, but I told him I wanted to wait and enjoy our marriage.

Then in her late 20s, the baby plans went back into motion and fear hit me like a brick.

Did I know what I was getting into?

My mother, who had always wanted grandchildren, promised help.

That's the mother that didn't want to help at night and was too afraid to hold the baby, by the way.

Anyway, then third mom,

My husband and I met in middle school.

He was always interested in having a big family.

I told him I wasn't quite sure.

Unfortunately, it took me seeing a positive pregnancy test at 25 to realize that it was not for me.