Brett Cooper

Sooner or later,

Everyone has to decide whether to give up lazy weekends, disposable income, and the overall peace of mind to have a baby instead.

For many of those on the fence, one anxiety looms large.

What if I make the wrong choice?

Parent regret is more common than you might think.

The r slash regretful parents subreddit alone gets around 70,000 weekly visitors who anonymously commiserate.

Though stigma makes it harder to admit in real life.

All right, so we're gonna get into all of that later, but I just want to focus on the way that they promoted this article.

Giving up lazy weekends, disposable incomes, overall peace of mind to have a baby instead.

They're basically saying you can't have a joyful life with a child.

So already we know the premise that New York Magazine and this journalist is working from.

They are already telling us that they are anti-natalist.

Now from there, they jump into talking about regretful parents, the 70,000 users who are commiserating on the subreddit, which in my opinion seems like a very small number compared to the 5 billion parents that exist on this earth.

But New York Magazine is telling us that that is a lot of parents.

But regardless, the reason why I am reading you this tweet before we actually get into

to the article is because based on this post alone, it would be completely reasonable to assume, and I certainly did assume, that this article was about vapid women who just wanted to do Pilates and get drunk at brunch and travel, go find themselves instead of spending time with their kids or instead of having kids.

women who, like most of the, you know, child-free subreddit, to talk about another subreddit, gleefully talk about how the only thing they care about is being selfish and they have a disinterest and commitment and responsibility.

That is what I was expecting based on this tweet.

And so understandably, without even clicking on the article, people were quick to leave their normal comments about how feminism has ruined women and women have been lied to and these women are so ridiculous and dumb and they don't understand the fulfillment and the empowerment that motherhood brings.

You know, they shouldn't be climbing a corporate ladder.