Brianna (Caller)

My OB, she was the delivery OB, and then she was the one that followed up on me until I was discharged. I thought she was good during delivery. I had no concerns. I actually felt quite comfortable and safe with her there. when I was being discharged from the hospital. My OB came in with my discharge paperwork to go over it, sat down, went through everything. I had a second degree tear.

She stitched it up in the delivery room. I said to her, this is my first baby. I have no idea what's normal. I'm a worrier and an anxious person. I just had to know for my own sanity, my level of anxiety swelling and injury and bleeding, like everything down there, I wanted to know where I was in terms of the spectrum of severity because I feel pretty torn up.

She stitched it up in the delivery room. I said to her, this is my first baby. I have no idea what's normal. I'm a worrier and an anxious person. I just had to know for my own sanity, my level of anxiety swelling and injury and bleeding, like everything down there, I wanted to know where I was in terms of the spectrum of severity because I feel pretty torn up.

She stitched it up in the delivery room. I said to her, this is my first baby. I have no idea what's normal. I'm a worrier and an anxious person. I just had to know for my own sanity, my level of anxiety swelling and injury and bleeding, like everything down there, I wanted to know where I was in terms of the spectrum of severity because I feel pretty torn up.

I feel like I'm sitting on a bowling ball. She looked at me and she said, you did push for two and a half hours. That's kind of the max that we'll let people go to. I mean, you're pretty bad. I was like, yeah, kind of rolling my eyes. Plus the six hours I pushed at the birth center. I kind of said that as an aside, like I thought that was normal.

I feel like I'm sitting on a bowling ball. She looked at me and she said, you did push for two and a half hours. That's kind of the max that we'll let people go to. I mean, you're pretty bad. I was like, yeah, kind of rolling my eyes. Plus the six hours I pushed at the birth center. I kind of said that as an aside, like I thought that was normal.

I feel like I'm sitting on a bowling ball. She looked at me and she said, you did push for two and a half hours. That's kind of the max that we'll let people go to. I mean, you're pretty bad. I was like, yeah, kind of rolling my eyes. Plus the six hours I pushed at the birth center. I kind of said that as an aside, like I thought that was normal.

And she stopped and looked at me and I'll never forget that look. She just was like, wait, what? She looked at me and she said, what do you mean you pushed at the birth center? And I said, I thought that was why my cervix was so swollen. Obviously, she wasn't given this information by Origins, but at the moment that she spoke it to me, I almost took it in a way that she was angry at me.

And she stopped and looked at me and I'll never forget that look. She just was like, wait, what? She looked at me and she said, what do you mean you pushed at the birth center? And I said, I thought that was why my cervix was so swollen. Obviously, she wasn't given this information by Origins, but at the moment that she spoke it to me, I almost took it in a way that she was angry at me.

And she stopped and looked at me and I'll never forget that look. She just was like, wait, what? She looked at me and she said, what do you mean you pushed at the birth center? And I said, I thought that was why my cervix was so swollen. Obviously, she wasn't given this information by Origins, but at the moment that she spoke it to me, I almost took it in a way that she was angry at me.

I know she wasn't. She was shocked. She said, you're not supposed to push until you're fully dilated, 10 centimeters. You weren't fully dilated when you got here. So why were you pushing? I was like, are you kidding me? I had no idea. She said, didn't they check you? And I said, well, I opted not to because she said there was an infection risk. She said, do you know what could have happened?

I know she wasn't. She was shocked. She said, you're not supposed to push until you're fully dilated, 10 centimeters. You weren't fully dilated when you got here. So why were you pushing? I was like, are you kidding me? I had no idea. She said, didn't they check you? And I said, well, I opted not to because she said there was an infection risk. She said, do you know what could have happened?

I know she wasn't. She was shocked. She said, you're not supposed to push until you're fully dilated, 10 centimeters. You weren't fully dilated when you got here. So why were you pushing? I was like, are you kidding me? I had no idea. She said, didn't they check you? And I said, well, I opted not to because she said there was an infection risk. She said, do you know what could have happened?

You could have torn your cervix. And I later found out that if you tear a cervix, you can hemorrhage and bleed out. That's an emergent surgery. I lost it. When she told me that, I took it kind of as a reprimand, but it was the gravity of how much Elizabeth had just let us go. And Ashlyn, why was I told to follow my body?

You could have torn your cervix. And I later found out that if you tear a cervix, you can hemorrhage and bleed out. That's an emergent surgery. I lost it. When she told me that, I took it kind of as a reprimand, but it was the gravity of how much Elizabeth had just let us go. And Ashlyn, why was I told to follow my body?

You could have torn your cervix. And I later found out that if you tear a cervix, you can hemorrhage and bleed out. That's an emergent surgery. I lost it. When she told me that, I took it kind of as a reprimand, but it was the gravity of how much Elizabeth had just let us go. And Ashlyn, why was I told to follow my body?

Why was this message not relayed from Ashlyn to Elizabeth eventually to this OB that I'd been pushing this long? And she was like, if I had known that when you came in, you wouldn't have been having a vaginal birth. I can't even describe the emotion I felt, the fire and the fury in me and the tears. And I screamed like I've never felt that emotion before in my life. I was so terrified and angry.

Why was this message not relayed from Ashlyn to Elizabeth eventually to this OB that I'd been pushing this long? And she was like, if I had known that when you came in, you wouldn't have been having a vaginal birth. I can't even describe the emotion I felt, the fire and the fury in me and the tears. And I screamed like I've never felt that emotion before in my life. I was so terrified and angry.

Why was this message not relayed from Ashlyn to Elizabeth eventually to this OB that I'd been pushing this long? And she was like, if I had known that when you came in, you wouldn't have been having a vaginal birth. I can't even describe the emotion I felt, the fire and the fury in me and the tears. And I screamed like I've never felt that emotion before in my life. I was so terrified and angry.

I think it shocked the OB. She tried calming me down. I mean, I just realized that I literally put my life and my baby's life in danger. That was the moment that everything changed for the rest of my life, to be quite frank. After I got over that emotion and was able to calm down, I was like, okay, what do we do from this point?