Brianna Gomez

And I'd wake up and I would think of him and I would check if he texted me and I would see like maybe if he would hang out with me that day, I would wait and see if maybe some plans would come through.

Girl, that's not healthy.

and honestly it wasn't until I was fully able to like rewire the shift in myself where it almost completely changed and evolved the relationship we had to each other because then flipped a switch in his brain where he is now seeing like oh like she needs these things she needs to be taken on dates she needs

commitment, she needs these things.

But if I was just the one all the time, 24-7, always available, number one, that's not healthy.

So I need to remind you that whoever your crush is, your partner is, you can love them, you can be with them, you can cherish each other, you can be so in love, but you have to know that you can spend time on your own.

Yes, you are connected with this person.

Yes, you can love and be committed to this person, but that doesn't mean you can't function without them.

I used to be the kind of like need to be attached to the hip 24-7 relationship, need that person to function if I don't hear from them for an hour like my life is crumbling apart.

I feel so much better now.

This is the most whole I felt in a relationship and it truly is because of the way that I've been able to rewire my self-worth and be like, you know what?

I don't need anyone else and I shouldn't be so dependent on someone else, especially when it becomes like I'm tying my whole mood and happiness upon whether this one person gives me attention or not.

it's like it definitely should not be that way and a relationship is so much healthier when it's not having that sort of exchange that's so unhealthily dependent on one another and one thing that i just absolutely have to say in this episode is that dating someone or talking to someone does not give them entitlement to your body i don't know who needs to hear this i feel like there's so many times where you feel like okay well i've been talking this person and like i might as well have to kiss them or hook up with them or xyz

Because like you don't want to feel like you're leading them on.

Like no.

I think that should be reserved for the one.

And if anyone pressures you into doing something or feels like you have to do it with them because they're your partner or you're talking to them or they're your crush...

that's not the one and leave immediately and tell someone.

I just have to say that in this episode because I've definitely been in that position where you just feel like you owe it to them.

You do not owe anyone anything.