Brittany Luce

I have felt sad that I could not share in their happiness with them.

That aspect of it does make me disappointed.

But ultimately, I have a high level of comfort telling other people when I cannot afford something.

I wonder how much of this also has to do with people's comfort or discomfort wanting to be honest with other people about what they can reasonably afford and where they actually are financially.

Oh, yeah.

Because, I mean, every guest is a dollar amount.

Exactly.

I wonder, is it possible to be a good guest or support your friend without spending so much money?

Or is there a cultural idea that spending this kind of money is how you demonstrate the depth of your friendships?

Yes.

It's all like, yeah.

It's so finite.

They're line items, yeah.

Right.

Like through the gift or paying for the batch trip or contributing to the honeymoon fund.

It's literally thought of as bad etiquette for some people.

Call me country.

But I didn't know until a few years ago that it was bad etiquette to buy something that like just made you think of the person or the couple that's like off registry.

And I'm like...

Sue me, trying to buy you a gift.