Brittany Luce

That's just not the deal.

But even if it is possible, there is a marked difference between the fantasy of being kept.

Because, right, like, the tribe-wide fantasy to me is not, like, a one-size-fits-all.

There are some people who are, like, fantasizing about the ballerina farm lifestyle.

Yeah.

You know, where they're like drinking the raw milk and they've got, you know, nine children and they're taking care of farm animals while also like marrying into a billionaire family.

But also there are people for whom it's more of like a, you know, I'm out all day buying Birkins and going shopping and like hitting up Starbucks.

Um, and you know, and not doing any sort of housework, like the tribe, my fantasy is it's just not one size fits all.

Um, but there is a market difference between the fantasy of what that might be like versus the reality of it.

Like, I wonder what's the longterm financial reality of relying on your boyfriend or husband financially.

If you know, she's out of the workforce for 10, 15, however many years, not contributing to a retirement account of her own that she might get through work or something like that.

It's – money can be tough for a lot of people.

I wonder if also, too, some of the desire to kind of split finances in such a way where one person has like pretty much total control or access or at least is like, you know, the person bringing in all of the money all of the time is –

I wonder if some of that comes from like a desire to avoid talking about money.

Like it could be easier to just have one person handle it than constantly trying to

resolve conflicts and misunderstandings.

It makes me think about the inverse of that is that we both, at the end of lots of conversations, we both get to feel included and we both get to feel seen and heard.

But I mean, it's a pain.

It's a pain.

And I wonder how much of that factors into it too, if there are people who just don't want to deal with talking to each other about this stuff.