Caitlin V

Like very good at validating and saying like, you're safe.

Our relationship is safe.

It is secure.

You have nothing to worry about, but we're not going to talk about it until we have time to talk about it.

And that's that quiets all those parts of me down that just need to hear that.

So super healthy at night.

Yeah.

Incredibly healthy.

The the distinction that I think I try to learn from my relationship with my ex there is that I have my my go to is to use words to cause harm.

And it took me.

30 years at least of of like doing that repeatedly and seeing the impact that it had on the people that i loved before i was really really willing to to let it go to say like this is not this isn't this isn't a weapon i want to wield anymore and it's been actually like an unlearning for me because sometimes now i have to remind myself like

that actually words do need to be used to put people onto the right track, right?

There is a needle to be thread there.

And I am certainly trying to do that all the time.

It's different in my personal life and my business, because in business you're kind of allowed to be like, hey, get back in your lane, right?

But in your personal life, there's a different balance there.

What I had to unlearn is that just because you could you just because like my brain can think of the worst thing possible to say to go directly for the jugular and drain them.

Right.

Like leave them feeling absolutely just destroyed.

That that's not a win for me.