Caitlin V

They're trying to scare you.

And if that were the case, I would say then communication has to be the primary thing that you teach in sex ed.

Because the anatomy and physiology is pretty quick, you'll figure it out.

Yeah, that part's pretty simple, right?

Human beings have been doing that for hundreds of thousands of years, pretty successfully.

That's how we all got here.

So that part's not actually the tricky part, right?

Giving people a heads up on like, here's some of the things that can happen, here's how to prevent those things.

But more importantly, I think about it from a harm reduction model.

You teach people what the actual risks are.

And I don't mean the unintended pregnancy, STI risk.

I mean the emotional risks, the mental risks.

When you start having sex with someone, your neurochemicals start cooking up this soup that has you feel very strongly about them because that's your body's evolutionary response to mating that is going to

create this sort of like magnetic pull.

It doesn't mean that they're a good partner for you or that that's the kind of person that you want to create a life with, but you're going to start feeling those way if you start having sex with someone.

Like you can educate people on those things.

And here's how to say no in a way that like preserve someone's dignity.

And here's how to say no against, you know, aggression.

And here's, you know, and that like there are ways that we can have a conversation about this where everyone can leave it feeling good and everyone can actually like get what they want out of it.

You ask like, why is it that we don't do that?