Caitlin V

By now it would have happened.

Oh, and then they get to college and then they think, well, it's just it's definitely going to happen at one point in college.

And then maybe they get through college and it didn't happen.

And then they start to like at each turn.

And then they start to pull themselves out of the field.

A lot of men across the board, even the most sexually experienced men I have ever worked with will say to me, I'm not very experienced.

I have less experience than other men.

Because they assume the story that they have about other men is that they have more sexual experience.

Everyone else has more experience.

I think it is just sort of part of the air that we breathe is that part of the way that men in particular feel insecure about themselves sexually is that they feel they should have had more experience.

I mean, I would take quality all the time.

I think so too.

Yeah.

But then again, you can have sex a hundred times with one person and learn their body really, really well.

Or you can have sex one time with a hundred people and learn a whole bunch about bodies.

You're going to learn either way.

Okay.

There's no right way of going about getting those experiences.

But I think if you just assume that they will happen to you and that you're not being an active participant in making them happen, then you might wake up one day and realize that those early ships have sailed.

And now the barrier to entry is a lot higher, partially because you didn't go through and have those little micro experiences of fucking up.