Candace (audience member)

If you want deep, sustaining intimacy in your relationship, you have to practice.

then we're really cooking with fire.

I'm Shankar Vedantam.

Hmm.

My name is Candace, and this is really simple advice.

It's not long, but it's something that I think about a lot that someone told me once, and I think it was when I was in college, and I would get very overwhelmed about things, tests, you know, all the things that had to be done, and they said,

are you going to remember this 50 years from now?

Like, is this really going to be important 50 years from now?

And it has really helped me a lot, even with little problems or arguments you have with somebody or the way you want to go somewhere, you want to do it this way, to think, is this thing that I'm stressing over going to matter 50 years from now?