Carol Murray

I spent the first 20 years like immediately after my accident and then all the years just being positive.

And while it served me well at the time, I never took the time

to go through the emotions and think about, look at the perspective of the girl that was lost.

So at the 20-year point, I had a bit of a crash emotionally, and I took the time to grieve who I might have lost and celebrate the woman that I've become.

And I realized that perspective was really better than just being positive, but to find true narratives and focus on those.

So I know perspective is powerful for a lot of people.

people.

But for me, I use the as a very simple example, I wasn't able to have children because of this.

And that was really hard.

So I could either focus on, oh, poor me, I can't have children.

Or I could find the perspective that, you know what, I can be the best auntie that I can be not just to my siblings, children, but to as many children as possible.

So I'll go to the mall, and there'll be like a 30 year old man saying, Hey, Auntie Carol,

And like when their niece, they were in elementary school with my niece.

So the three pillars, and that's where the resilience come from.

Because when I look back at those days in the hospital and getting through it all, and all these years afterwards and chronic pain and, you know, raising money for charity sometimes isn't easy, but it's always rewarding.

Those are the things that ground it for me for resilience.

I think I would have found philanthropy as a career choice.

I loved business, but I wanted to help people.

So I think I would have found it.

I really do.