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But if it comes at the expense of your own peace of mind or you're never taking time out to rest, there is a downside.

And over time, we stop inhabiting the present moment.

We seem to be always future focused and forward facing, thinking about what's next.

It's kind of become a badge of honor in some communities when people ask, how are you going?

Oh, yeah, yeah, I'm busy.

I'm busy.

Everyone's busy.

But how are we really doing?

So if we're managing life instead of experiencing it, what does this actually look like?

It could be sitting at the dinner table with your family but not really tasting the food, not really hearing the conversations.

It could be listening to your partner talk but mentally you're running through tomorrow's to-do list.

It could be watching your child tell you a story while you're checking your phone.

It could be walking along the beach and already thinking about what needs to happen when you get home.

You've got to fold the laundry.

You've got to empty the dishwasher.

You've got to feed the pets, whatever it is.

So from the outside, it looks like efficiency.

It can look very productive.

It looks like competence.

But sometimes that efficiency, that competence comes at the expense of connection, at the expense of rest, at the expense of really experiencing your life.