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It just comes to the point of like, okay, now you're going to eventually have to let this baby know that –

Right, which that's the part that I think you'd have to think about because when the baby finds that out and they come searching for you, are you willing to allow that to happen?

Because if you're not willing to allow that to happen, then do not do it.

Because this whole idea of like...

you know babies shouldn't have the right to search for their biological parents that's wrong it's wrong to me uh yeah and so i feel like um if they want it they deserve to be able to do with that and everyone's like oh well i i really appreciate me because i didn't want anything to do with that i want to be i don't want to be known and here's the thing is that like i i believe i understand what you're saying but unfortunately you don't have that luxury

Because this innocent baby came in here into the world and you brought, you know what I'm saying?

So now with you relinquishing for adoption, you've got to literally accept the fact that this child may come searching for you in the future.

So if you don't want to be contacted, I suggest you handwrite a letter.

You have your medical history in a file.

Like you literally give like here, like I don't want to be contacted, but here is why.

Or I don't think you should just, I don't think you should just like,

Like cut it off and just be like – But that's still going to affect the child.

It will affect the child.

So you have to make a decision as far as like – relinquishing the child doesn't eliminate your responsibility, moral responsibility in my opinion.

I'm not going to say legal or whatever because it's different.

But you don't have that luxury of like you need to –

I could never imagine.

Because there are a lot of adoptees who go to search for their birth parents and they go, I don't want anything to do with you.

I didn't want to be found or whatever.

In my head, it's like, I get why you want that.